When Venus Squares Mars

Unexpected difficulties in love

The combination of Venus and Uranus is exciting, explosive and quite fickle. When Venus squares Uranus, people tend to break all the rules - they can be rebellious and impulsive, or strangely distant and aloof.

But these aren't just problems couples encounter when Venus squares Uranus. No matter how much you love someone, sometimes difficulties arise that make the relationship seem impossible. Here are some unexpected difficulties in love that seem to be directly inspired by Venus squaring Uranus. Plus, our top tips for working through them.

Rebellion
From James Dean to Madonna, bad boys - and bad girls - have proven time and time again that rebels are irresistible. But while a rebellious attitude seems sexy on screen, it can cause major difficulties in real-life love. People who constantly need to buck the system are often resistant to the compromises involved in healthy romantic relationships. If your partner has a defiant personality, normal day-to-day interactions can quickly turn into conflicts. They may even start acting out just to create a fight.

Strategy
So how do you confront someone you love about their confrontational attitude? In many cases, rebellious behavior is simply a way to mask deeper insecurities. When they say, "I don't care what you do!" they are actually worried that you don't care what they does. While you may think you're merely working through a rough patch, your partner could secretly feel that you are threatening to end the relationship. When you address their rebellious attitude - or any other issues in the relationship - be extra careful to start and end the conversation with by expressing how much you care.

Aloofness
What do you do when your partner seems distant and detached - despite claiming to be happy with you? You ask what's going on, but they bristles and say, "I just need some space." But what does that mean? To bring back the closeness of the relationship, you'll need to get to the bottom of what's driving this distance. Are they feeling smothered by too much affection? Do they crave some "alone time?" The only way you'll ever know is if you ask for specifics, gently and honestly.

Threats or ultimatums will just push your partner further away, so approach the situation calmly and compassionately. Don't make blanket statements or assume you both feel the same way. Ask your partner if he's feeling disconnected from you, too - then try to explore causes and solutions together.

Impulsiveness
When you met your partner, she swept you off your feet in one crazy, spontaneous moment. And you loved it. But now that you're ready to settle down, her impulsive behavior seems a bit, well - crazy. People who crave emotional excitement tend to get bored easily. But what do you do when your partner suddenly seems bored with it all?

Rather than reacting out of hurt, remind yourself that your partner is not necessarily bored with you -- they are probably bored with themselves. When you sense your mate getting antsy, help them channel their energy into creative, productive outlets. You can also provide some pizzazz by being more romantically spontaneous. If you keep your partner on their toes, they're much less likely to wander off.

No matter what difficulties you and your love are facing, always tackle them together, honestly and openly. It may be a temporary vibration created by the astrological climate - like when Venus squares Mars. However, if it doesn't blow over and your partner is unwilling to work on their issues, carefully consider the future of your relationship. If they are willing to try to change, offer support, patience and most of all, love!