ASK WC
Should I take a lover?
Dear W.C.
I've been with my husband a little over nine years and most of the time we are good friends. The problem is that there has been no sexual relationship for the last four years. He promised to look into medical help but hasn't done so, and won't consider counseling either. He says he just doesn't care about it anymore. Meanwhile, I'm frustrated, hurt, upset, etc., etc. and not sure what to do. Should I just try to forget about a sex life altogether or take a lover (like I've thought about doing a lot recently). I love my husband but don't think it's fair that I should have to forgo this important part of life while I'm still young enough to want and enjoy it. What do you think?
Thank you,
Lynn
Dear Lynn,
Well, only you can truly weigh the importance of these issues to your overall happiness and well-being my little Aquarian friend. I can tell you one thing though; I certainly wouldn't hold my breath for anything to change in this situation, or in your husband's outlook. There is no sign that is slower to change than Taurus. Your husband also has the planet Mars in the sign of Pisces in his birth chart, which makes him rather passive and reluctant to take the bull by the horns when it comes to solving problems. It also lends him a rather low-key sexual drive. So I really wouldn't expect things to be changing much. It's up to you to decide whether or not that's something you can live with. But just make sure that you address the issues honestly and keep the lines of communication open between the two of you no matter what you decide to do.
Good luck!
W.C.
Dear W.C.,
I'm engaged to a man in prison (10 yrs). We're completely compatible, and desire the same things in life -- a home, security, jobs and acceptance. He got in trouble over alcohol abuse, a cheating wife and circumstances. I am wondering, after this long, is it likely he will revert to his old habits?
He is NOT stupid. He's very intelligent and eager to begin life again with me. I have some concerns regarding our age difference, but other than that, we have a great understanding. What do you see or predict for our future?
Deanna
Dear Deanna,
Oh, it's always you Pisces who are left to save the lost souls, isn't it? Pisces just love to take on situations that others may have considered lost causes. That can be a very noble impulse, but it can also get you into trouble sometimes, too. Everyone has the capacity to change and to learn and to grow from their mistakes. And sometimes you Pisces can provide just the right amount of faith and support that's required to help get someone over the hump. But just realize that there will be a hump here, and you need to make sure that allow your Capricorn friend a little time and space to prove himself before you throw your full faith and support behind him. Hopefully he has learned and grown. The hurdles may come from the fact that he appears to have a fair amount of Sagittarius and Aquarius in his birth chart, which could lead to a certain amount of independence and impulsive decision-making. He also has Jupiter in Scorpio, which could lead to a penchant for enjoying certain types of compulsive behavior. But if these things weren't the case, he probably wouldn't have spent the past 10 years in the calaboose, right? As I've said though, hopefully he's used this time to grow and has learned to master his impulses. But don't make the Pisces mistake of giving your faith and support blindly, or you could end up losing a lot. Just remember that your faith and support isn't free. It needs to be earned.
Best of luck my little Pisces friend!
W.C.