Busting Dating Myths

As someone who roots for the bad guys in films and loves to go against the grain, I would argue that the rules for first meeting a potential mate are all a big myth. From how many days should go by before calling, beating yourself up over a comment you made, or wondering how soon you should sleep with them, these myths can cause a lot of unnecessary stress. The bottom line is: just being yourself and doing what you feel in your gut can keep you out of trouble and is a great start to a relationship.

Having to wait a certain amount of time before calling is a big myth and rather silly if you think about it because it all comes down to a game of “what is the other person thinking?!” If you have a great time and want to see the person again, don’t play games, and give them a ring to invite them out somewhere. I’m not saying to stalk or be the weird person that calls everyday, but there’s nothing wrong with not waiting the normal 2-3 day waiting period to call someone. It also sets you apart from everyone else by not playing games and just being “real.”

We all get nervous on a date and are always trying to figure out what our date is thinking. We get weary of what we are saying and how we are behaving. Afterall, first impressions are very important, but you don’t want to give the impression that you are going out of your way to try too hard to be perfect. Be yourself, it’s your little quirks and mishaps that make you who you are and those are the things a date will find endearing and unique about you. Keep in mind as well, whatever nervousness you are feeling, there’s a very high likelihood that your date is feeling the same thing as you. Chill out and enjoy the experience.

Lastly, here’s the one that confuses most — when should we sleep together? There really isn’t a right answer for this, it’s all dependent on the two people involved. My general rule is that if I am dating someone and I like them, I’m not in a hurry to sleep with them. Overall, assessing your situation and realizing exactly what it is, is how to go about it. Sometimes we meet people that we are attracted to right off the bat and want to rip each other’s clothes off. Some people we have great sex with but don’t have that intellectual or “love” connection with. Every situation is as unique as the two people involved, so trust your gut. But, if you really do like the person you are dating, there’s nothing wrong with waiting, and a little mystery keeps you coming back!