Sex and Spirituality: Spiritual Lovemaking

Better Sex and Deeper Passion Through Spirituality

Your love language is a reflection of your life in many ways. You may be emotionally distant, because you are physically distant in the bedroom. Your touch might be polluted with stress, anxiety, jealousy, and insecurity, because you are angry with your partner for the lack of sex (or quality of sex) you are having. When love takes a negative turn, a couple’s feelings for each other can become diluted to the point of no longer communicating with each other on an intimate level. They may be having intercourse, but its spiritual significance has been replaced by duty, boredom and expectation.

Research suggests that no matter how much sex you’re getting, you will never find long-term satisfaction in its release. That word, release, is an interesting choice when talking about an orgasm, as it is often quite the opposite that occurs. When orgasm is your goal, your brain may become dependent on its chemical elixir, produced from too much sex. This makes you vulnerable to the Coolidge Effect. This is when you engage in sex with your partner, and the brain gradually diminishes the amount of dopamine (happy chemical) you experience due to familiarity of the stimuli. This can increase your focus on sex, causing disappointment, and eventually create less of an incentive to engage in it.

It is almost as if the brain is working against our ability to pair bond, because it slowly strips away one of the essential chemicals that brought you and your partner together in the first place. The most widely acknowledged methods to get these chemicals flowing, are to incorporate various outside stimuli, such as therapy, sex positions, pornography, or even an affair. These methods work, because each time our brain is presented with a novel experience, it recaptures that old spark (dopamine levels). However, you have to keep upping the ante to maintain these highs, which can be a lot of work.

“Always remember love is an emotion and sex is a physical act. Yes, you can have sex with or without love, and yes, you can have love with or without sex. For some, this concept is hard to embrace and the lines can become blurred.” – Psychic Deejay ext. 5435

When we talk about sexual satisfaction, what is often implied is whether or not your partner is rocking your boat or peeling your banana. However, what may be truly lacking in your lovemaking is not the fabulous orgasms you once had, but the spiritual connection you never did. Allow me to introduce you to another side of sexual satisfaction. It’s one which has absolutely no goal or finale, other than sharing a moment with your partner, celebrating life, love, and discovering the power behind awakening your kundalini (sexual energy).

The ideology of spiritual sex has taken the form of many teachers, interpretations and methods. In these teachings, the fundamental message is that sex has a far greater potential beyond just creating life and pleasure. It has the ability to heal, enlighten, and develop an everlasting chemical bond with your partner. I’d like to highlight a few of these practices:

Western Sex Magick—Magick is often criticized for its focus on the polarities (positive-active/negative-passive) of the male and female body, and how they relate to our roles in the bedroom. However, it also inspires us to take our attention away from the physical goal of sex, and place it towards the recognition of the spiritual energy at work inside our body. Consider the negative effects that culture and media have (which may be oppressing your ability to see beyond the act itself) and discover a more-self fulfilling state of mind.

Karezza—Karezza has been touched upon in many teachings. However, one idea that has come out of its philosophies is to allow your love energy to penetrate each other during lovemaking, creating healing and spiritual awareness. The trick is not to allow the connection to be cutoff prematurely by orgasm. In other words, the union with your lover can become stronger if you learn to focus the energy in your pelvis to the other areas of the body, such as the heart. This isn’t saying that an orgasm is bad, but that you may have a more vigorous and satisfying experience, if you don’t rely on them to signal you’re having a “good sex life.”

Meditative Sex—Mutual meditation does not need to follow any specific technique or teachings, as your focus is on the gradual movements that will initiate a steady stream of sexual energy. It involves give and take, as any energy you create must then be shared with your partner, and that which you give will be replaced by your partner’s offerings. Don’t allow your excitement to build beyond the point of return, and in time you’ll discover that spiritual sex can have infinite pleasures beyond the big O.

Not quite ready for therapy, but open to a love/relationship reading? Psychic Anasela ext. 5154 knows how to fix your relationship!

There is no easy road to sexual enlightenment. This is why it is important to explore many teachings and methods before you find something that appeals to you. This article was not intended as a guide, but inspiration to the concept that a more fulfilling relationship may be possible through your mind (meditation), rather than the body (orgasm).

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