Dear Red,
I really need some advice. I am so in love with an older man. I am a 36 year old Aquarius and he is also an Aquarius. He has been in and out of my life for about five years.
I guess you could say that at first, it was just a sex thing. But this past year, he moved in with me for about six months and my feelings got stronger. I never thought I would fall in love with him because we have always been great friends. The problem is that he will stay with me for a while and then take off for a couple of weeks, leaving me heartbroken. I am a very passive person and I don’t pressure him at all about his feelings. I just need to know if he will ever stay with me or if I need to move on.
I’m so confused, Red. Everyone says they have never seen him get as close to anyone as he was to me, besides his ex-girlfriend. My family loves him and we’re so much alike it’s crazy. I don’t know what to do. We’re both shy when it comes to speaking about our true feelings. Please give me some advice.
Thank you,
Allison
Dear Allison,
Your Aquarian lover seems to have a major case of wanderlust. Unfortunately, I don’t see this changing around him. He just seems to have that Gypsy spirit.
The relationship you share is not just a sexual one. You do have a very solid friendship, and each of you has emotions for the other that run deeper. The foundation is strong, but I don’t see this evolving into a more conventional romantic situation.
This man gives you all he has to give, to the best of his capability. He’s just not at a place where he’s ready to settle down. Your relationship with him can continue on as it has been, pretty much indefinitely. Sadly, if you try and alter the relationship, the friendship will also be changed.
If what you share with him isn’t enough for you, then yes, you need to move on. I just want to caution you that if you get to an all-or-nothing mindset, you may end up with the nothing side of the deal. I’m afraid that if you try and discuss your true feelings, your intuition is correct; he will run.
Wish I had better news for you…
Brightest Blessings,
Red
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