Rev Up Relationship Sex

Martini’s aren’t the only thing you can spice up. For many couples and single hookups, a new year can be extra special. So why not make it super sexy, too? We’ve got 11 tips to inspire lovers both in and out of the bedroom. It may not be mind-blowing sex each and every time, but with a little creativity, you can keep things extra hot now and throughout the year!

Sleep naked
Even Posh Spice does it. Sleeping in the buff might not get you more sex, but it will add an element of sensuality to your bedtime routine. Every time you brush up against each other, you’ll feel soft, smooth skin – and who knows what that could lead to!

Read a bedtime story
Take turns reading sexy books like Joan Kelly’s The Pleasure’s All Mine, anything in Anne Rice’s erotica series, Susie Bright’s The Best American Erotica, and that old bedroom standard Kama Sutra to get in the mood. Stimulate the mind, and your bodies will follow. Visit the sex or erotic literature section of a bookstore, or go online for more ideas.

Play dress up
Dressing up isn’t just for Halloween. Does your partner fantasize about a hot nurse or a fireman coming to the rescue? Sharing fantasies and then finding ways to safely act them out (at least the ones grounded in some reality) can be a lot of fun. If you think you and your partner will just break into giggles, all the better. Laughing together helps couples bond and feel closer, so it’s a win-win situation.

Playthings for playtime
This’ll be a shopping spree that even most guys will enjoy. The Internet has made it easy to shop together for sexy toys in the privacy of your own home. Try Babeland.com for fun, San Francisco’s Goodvibes.com for everything from fine leather to chocolate body sauce to fuzzy restraints.

Flattery will get you everywhere
Nothing will snuff out your sex-drive faster than feeling taken for granted. For couples, there’s always the danger of growing a bit complacent. You can keep the embers of your love hot by making a point of complimenting each other at least once a day. And remember, men love words of flattery as much as women.

Switch off and switch on
Agree that one night it’ll be all about you, and the next all about your partner. When it’s their turn, remind them early in the day. You might even try whispering in their ear a little something you have in mind for later. They’ll be looking forward to it all day long!

Movie magic
If watching sexy movies makes you or your partner feel uncomfortable, try watching turn-on movies like Shortbus, Secretary, or Sirens together. Not only will you get to relax, but it’ll also help put you both in a more amorous mood.

Go location scouting
See who can come up with the most creative spot in the house to do it. What about the washing machine, shower, sofa, dining room table? Let your imagination run wild! If you want to get even more adventurous, consider places outside the home, like a hotel room or private beach. The mile-high club is always looking for new members.

Take a mini-holiday
You don’t have to go far to have vacation-quality sex. Stay in town or close to home, but do check yourselves into a nice hotel. It could even be up the block. Come morning be sure to treat yourselves to breakfast in bed. And does the hotel have a pool or hot tub you can use before or after checking out?

Dance cheek-to-cheek
Bodies bumping. Hips shaking. Like the song says, “music leads the way to romance.” Go out dancing or, better yet, take a dance class together. Try partner dancing like tango, ballroom or salsa.

Supercharge your body
Couples often pass on sex not because they aren’t in love or attracted to one another, but because they’re too exhausted. Healthy habits like eating right, getting enough sleep and exercising can improve your sex life dramatically. Improving your sex life might also be as simple as crossing a few to-dos off your list, so that you have more time and energy to devote to lovemaking. Consider what’s more important for your happiness – a clean car or mind-blowing sex? Hands-down, it’s the latter.

But we forgot to mention the first and most important step to getting more and better sex out of your relationship. Talk about it! Sharing these tips and your own ideas with each other might just be the thing to start the sparks flying. Most of all, have fun and remember to use your imagination!