Why does society make it appear that being single is so much fun during our teens and 20s, but if you are still single (or suddenly become single) in your 30s and 40s, it’s awful? Let’s instead focus on the positive aspects of being single, so that those who are — for whatever reason — can enjoy this wonderful time in their lives.
First, being single is not a negative thing — no matter what age a person happens to be. Interestingly enough, I have really noticed a lot of my callers that are single in their 30s and 40s put themselves down, feel stuck, think the worst will happen, and believe, “all the good ones are taken.”
Surprisingly, it’s is not just women that are reporting this self-inflicted, preconceived notion … a lot of men are saying the same thing!
There are so many different reasons why a person is or becomes single. So, just because a situation has put a person into the ‘single’ status, does not mean that a person is a ‘reject.’ On a spiritual and psychological level, if one perceives their status as such, it can really mess with their belief system and self-esteem.
No matter what age a person is, being single should be embraced as an opportunity. Honestly, just think of some of the movie stars that are suddenly single. Do you think Jennifer Aniston is a reject? There are millions of men around the globe who would love to have Jennifer Aniston by their side. What about Liam Neeson? It’s not his fault that he tragically lost his wife. Both of these celebrities became suddenly single! Two highly desired public figures.
Using Jennifer Aniston and Liam Neeson as examples, there are many reasons why wonderful and desired people become single. Here are some examples of potential reasons why ‘good ones’ are are currently available/suddenly single:
Their partner was unfaithfulTheir partner changed into a totally different person and the situation became unlivable.A tragedy occurred in which one becomes a widow/widower.Being with someone for the wrong reasons and realizing it.Partner was an addict.Partner was a liar.Tired of being just a “meal ticket.”Partner is always depressed.Some of the greatest love stories that have been reported to me happened in their late 30s, 40s, 50s, and even 70s! Please realize that being suddenly single is a total opportunity, and gives a person a chance to explore the journey of destined love. At this point in a person’s life, the best thing to do is not to settle and take the first available mate. Truthfully, the best is yet to come, and if single people realized that, there would be a lot more happy single people out there. Change that little ‘chip’ in the mind and reprogram this information, as the best is really yet to come. It all starts in a person’s mindset. In other words, a person has the choice to either see it as an opportunity, or to have a poor self-image.
Accept the present conditions as they are — don’t resist them. The Universe will show you signs as to whether or not you are on the right track. And for those of you who would like to get back together with an ex, it’s ok to have the dream, and sometimes another chance to get back together can really happen. But don’t punish yourself until that reconciliation happens. However, do appreciate those who are in your life, such as your family, friends, and special friends at work. A person can still have fun no matter what you are waiting for. Life is too short.
Finally, there is a reason the Universe and God want you to be single right now. Don’t fight it — embrace it. Live and know that things will eventually change. Please know that you are not alone, but you still have your life, so live and let live! Embrace change and know that there are many wonderful people out there!
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You would be surprised at the married people who would love to be single.
i want good friend for spend my spare time
i am Looking a girl for Life pat.
Hi WonderWoman-great point…Good to hear from you.
A lot of people feel the way you do-you are certainly not alone…
That is what us psychics are here for-to help you put it “all” together…So you can make the right choices for your future path. Huggies and thanks.
Miss Krystal
Hi Miss Krystal! I am finally able to get on the “blog”. Yay. It’s Wonder Woman from New York. (chuckle). Interesting article. I can definitely relate with Sea Turtle’s comments. It can be scary when you are married for a long time and are accustomed to what we call “security” or “safety” when in fact that is probably an illusion.
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Hi Miss Krystal!
What a great picture!
I want to thank you very much for the past week! I’ve been so down lately, you know with EVERYTHING we talked about and you’ve been a huge help. I can feel how much of an Empath I am, I felt you were as frustrated about the “stucked” one as I was, lol. Made me laugh after which I really needed.
I hope everything does come to pass as I really need some order and stability in my life right now.
I hope you’re having a great day!
Hugs!
Cubes 😀
That was put so wonderfully. Its hard some days being single, feeling like maybe there is something wrong, that your not ggod enough. But MOST of the days, I do believe that the best is out there for me and I can’t wait for that day !! Great Article Miss Krystal 🙂
I appreciate these ladies enjoying their single life. It is great not having to “be” somewhere for someone or “do” for someone. I have been single 20ish years and I warn you all to be careful… I once enjoyed it but now I hate it as I have no-one to help and comfort me. It became a like a ‘habit’, the kids have lives of their own, and now its hard to break and rejoin society. Don’t let it go on too long or you forget how to be social, then you get scared to be social. Be independent and strong but don’t forget how to love another adult as I have. I wish I knew if and when I would meet the type of man I dream of.
Cheers
Thank you so much. I appreciate what your input and welcome the encouragement.
ST-
That is great your mom likes BK, too!
Granny likes the Whopper, fries and a chocolate shake, her favorite! It’s just that I want it, too lol trying not to do that…..Actually, been making my burgers at home-trying not to do fast food. Hugs, Miss Krystal
🙂
Thanks Cubes!
Oh goodness, you read my mind, Gina Rose. I almost put that about protesting lol yes, I see it…You have rain today and we are in a small heat wave! Thanks so much for the passion on this.
Hugs,
Miss Krystal
This is fantastic, Joy!
Thanks. I really enjoyed meeting you at the last CP party-a real pleasure.
I agree with what you say. I also thank you for your sincere remarks about yourself.
Cheers,
Miss Krystal
Hi Miss Krystal,
Too funny! My Mom LOVES Burger King too! In fact, she goes on line and prints off coupons from their site to “buy one sandwhich get one free”!!! 🙂
And, thank you for your kind words. You have a vdery sweet spirit.
Happy Day!
ST
Hi Miss Krystal,
Thank you so much for the lovely article. It’s great to see all the insights that you have on on this. I have to agree its great being single and there is no shame on it. I have been single myself for 6 years after a 8 year relationship that I ended and I do understand that its hard to not at the fact that your friends are with someone or they are married off and having a family. But what I have come to realize that when the moment will hit me about that special someone it will and I know is patience is definitely a virtue here especially in my case LOL… but nevertheless I love being single because it gives me the freedom to do what I need to do in my life without the constant worry about other people. It gives me the chance to just enjoy being ME! I think that’s a key element here for those of us that are very much single. Don’t be ashamed of it, instead be proud of it and definitely embrace it to the fullest!
Hi…..
Just for fun….could you imagine the picket signs of women on strike????
The signs might read as follows :
I want action and a commitment !!!! When do I want it ???? NOW !!!!
NO more LONG, loving, enduring looks across the room !
No more huggy-wuggy !
No more smoochy-woochy !
No more touchy-feely !
I wonder how many men would cave in and commit ? I wonder how long it would take them ?
Just think…
first a commitment…..then, we would have total dominance over the remote control….then they would automatically, on their own, take out the garbage……
…just think…..women might end up ruling the world !!!!!!
I’m only being silly and kidding…..but it IS funny to think about it.
Great article you wrote, Miss Krystal….we need more articles on empowerment for women overall I think.
Well…its raining here,( great for my garden).. will get back to building animal shelter next week.
Blessed Be )O(
Gina Rose ext.9500
Yes Miss Krystal! I DO believe!
Hugs right back!
Cubes 😀
Hi Gina Rose!
Thank you so much for your pointers. I really appreciate your input. I’m still trying to figure out what I really want to do. I will start with my interests just like you said and go with the flow!
Hugs!
Cubes 😀
Thanks, Maryanne. Hopefully women will read this and we can get them to be open to a “New Attitude”-I am glad you met a wonderful man. However,I am terribly sorry that you lost your spouse, a while back.
Cheers,
Miss Krystal
ST,
It’s always great to see you on here. I think you are a wonderful example of knowing how to enjoy your life.
Grandma is doing well. As long as she has her Burger king lol (seriously she loves that place)
Give the doggies a big hug for me,
cheers,
Miss Krystal
Hi Gina Rose-
lol busting up, “Women in America on strike” lol
Cheers,
Miss Krystal
Dear Taurus68,
I think I understand, it’s the “in-between” time that is the most difficult. For me, it took me awhile to see my value.
It’s interesting that you say “know what you want, and know what you don’t have”…I felt the same way.
Funny thing though, what I have is so much different than what I thought that I wanted…and, I really do love my life!
It’s okay to be afraid, I think it’s natural when we’re embarking on something unknown…as long as we don’t let it stop us.
Sending you blessings and courage,
ST
Thank you for your input.It does help to hear from other people who have or are in the process of going through similar circumstances.
Miss Krystal,
Great article on a very important topic. Embracing what we have and being ready to embrace change definitely need to be listed in the secrets of life.
After being widowed at 29, I was terrified in my mid-30’s that I was too old, I wasn’t in a relationship, eeek! You’re so right, enjoy your life, be open, and forget the number. I dated, had relationships, fell in love with my beach and could not believe that the universe had a lovely old beach house there for me in my price range when everything else was astronomical. Then one day, in my mid 50’s, I showed up late to meet a “friend of a friend” for weekend brunch (why bother to be on time since I was “too old” and had “missed my chance” by then). The best was not only yet to come, but right there waiting for me. I thought “Wow” and have said that to myself every day since then. Oh, for all of the days in my 30’s and 40’s that I spent precious moments worrying about “getting too old” or having “missed my chance”. The universe was just making sure I didn’t stop walking on the path to “Wow”.
Thanks again for your insightful thoughts.
Sincerely,
Maryanne
Ext. 9146
I too and ended a 22 year marriage, and appreciate this article. I’m already enjoying being on my own. Getting used to being quiet by myself….enjoying the company of some friends. The person I was then, and the person I am now are different people. Its nice embracing who I am, and who I’m becoming. I look forward to the adventure. I’d like that one of my friends eventually be someone who spends some, or alot, of my future with me, but if not, I’m enjoying them now. I wish you well, and happy exploring. 🙂
Hi Miss Krystal,
Thank you. Life sure is a journey and one that I’m thankful for!
Nice of you to say that you missed me…I have not been on here much lately, guess I was tired of reading my own emails about “oldee” and figured everyone else was too! YIKES! 😮
But, I do check in and read to see how everyone is doing. I miss seeing Believer’s emails as well.
Hope you and your Grandma are happy & healthy.
My boys (dogs) and I just got back from a
long walk on the beach. Beautiful day here on my island…the air smells so fresh and is so soft to breath. Loved it!
Blessings to you too!
(and a hug)
ST
Hi Cubes….
Miss Krystal can give you some pointers on where to start…..but here are a few of mine….
What are your interests ???? start there! Go try the new things you’ve been curious about…..go see some new places you’ve always wanted to see…..go join some new organizations you relate to….
For me, my only complaint in life is that there just isn’t enough hours in a day….Personally speaking,I’m too busy and having too much fun doing my own thing to even think about finding love….love can find me and chase me, and maybe even catch up to me…not the other way around!
I want to take some oil painting classes….I want to take some pottery classes…..If I live to be 100 years old, I’d never be able to do all of the things on my list of things I wish to experience, see and try.
It’s a big wide world out there and women have more freedom than ever before to accomplish their goals and experience their dreams…don’t wait…for when you are flowing WITH the universal currents of Life…and walking your own Karmic path….you will meet the most amazing people !
Blessed Be )O(
Gina Rose ext.9500
I enjoy your reply to this. I also got married at the age of 21 and it has been 22 years and I am in the process of letting go of the relationship. Iam at the point in my life where I know what I want and know that I do not have. It is like losing yourself in a relationship with a person who just takes it all for granted and think that any voice of concern is nonsense and stupid. With that said I do fear the single life nad appreciate what this article has to say as I make the next step of my journey.
Hi Miss Krsytal and Verbena….
fantastic article…..many good points made by all….
Here is something else to ponder ….LOL…. just for fun & amusement sake….
I wonder, hmmmmm……IF women, ALL single women….EVERY single woman witheld sex and intimacy, go on-strike so to speak……say ,for 6 months to a year…. how many men would get over their fear of commitment ?????
Gee…..doesn’t that open up a wide array of topics for discussion (?)
I’m being silly now I know….but still,…doesn’t one wonder how men would react ????
Blessed Be )O(
Gina Rose ext.9500
Hey Cubes-
Thanks for your honesty. Yes, you can get there. I hope you take on the “spirit” that is suggested. Only improvement will follow, if you really “believe” this.
I so appreciate you.
Hugs,
Miss Krystal
Thanks, Lonnie!
There is happiness to be found no matter what stage, in life, we are currently in. Glad you enjoyed this.
🙂
Blessings,
Miss Krystal
Thanks so much, Verbena. You make a fantastic point. Yes, a lot of major achievement has happened for people who are on a long study, or trying to further their professional path.
I knew a taurus woman who dedicated her life for 8 years living with monks. She was like a walking “Book of Wisdom” by the time she was done with that long study. Then, after her success, she started to be open to a partner. She was solo the entire time she was doing her study. Very successful person.
Thanks again.
Blessings,
Miss Krystal
Hi Miss Krystal,
I like really like this artical. I’ve been single for over three years, but I don’t think I have been fully experiencing it. I’m in my mid thirties and sometimes I feel like I’m running out of time and I really don’t know why. No one in my family says a thing about my single status, but yet I feel like I need to be in a relationship right now. I really want to enjoy this single time, but sometimes I don’t know where to start.
Your artical I believe is a great start, I have to change that “chip” that you say. I know I’ll get there!
Thanks for the info!
Cubes 😀
Hi ST-
Good to see you on here…Missed ya…
Hope you have been having fun and enjoying work.
You did not ramble at all. In fact, it’s good for others to see all that you have written…Good karma..
Don’t think, at almost 41 years of age, I don’t look at the ladies older than myself, and think, “this could be me at their age.” I am an empath 🙂
In order to be a great emapth, we must put ourselves in other people’s shoes. Only thing is, I have been divorced. It’s been many years, since I have been divorced. I can’t see where marriage fits my life right now. I am happy living with my partner. God knows my heart. God knows I love people, animals and try to help as many as I can. So I don’t feel guilty. I may change my mind, however. We shall see.
I totally support others who want marriage. I have helped many people on here get engaged. I believe that we should do what feels right for us.
You have given a lot of inspiration with your honesty. Your dogs and kitty are lucky to have you!!
God Bless,
Miss Krystal
Thanks, Gina Rose. This means a lot to me, coming from you. I think it is obvious that you enjoy your life. You are a perfect example, absolutely. You have a full life. And you for sure surround yourself with good people.
Another great example, is your passion for the animals. It’s good to be involved in something that we have passion about. It feels good to “give back.” All people— no matter what their status is, should do something that they are passionate about.
Not everyone wants a relationship. And that is fine and, we have a lot of people out there feeling the same way you do.
It’s a great life! No matter what your “status” is.
Blessings,
Miss Krystal
Yes, Miss Abigail-
Thanks-ASK TO RECEIVE!!!
Brilliant point.
Hugs,
Miss Krystal
Miss Krystal,
You are one of my favorite blogger’s. You seem to have a gift for teaching, for simplifying the emotional and quite often, irriational programming that is in our heads.
When I first became single, after having been married since the age of 21, and being a couple since the age of 18, I was so afraid.(am 51 now) In fact, I divorced after a 23 year marriage and married a second time to the first man thatI dated. That was a HUGE mistake, which I did rectify.
I have now been single for two years. At first I found myself afraid once again, and panic began to set in. I felt like a “loser” as if there was something wrong with me…especially, after marrying a second time.
But, now, I am so thankful for the journey. I mean, there are things that I have done, things that have been done to me, “stuff” that I sometimes wish did not happen. You know there are no “do-over’s”…I sometimes find myself wondering if I had the chance to “do-over” certain things..would I? That’s a question that I don’t have a definitive answer for…
I’m not sure because I like who I have become. I like the woman that I am. I like what I have learned. I’m mostly content with myself and where I am in life…and, some of the “bad stuff” actually was a catalyst for forcing me to move beyond my comfort zone and see the gifts that God had given me. I feel empowered in so many ways.
Sorry, that I’m saying so much about myself. I guess it’s a long way of saying that I agree with what you have said. And, to encourage others to take your advice:
“Accept the present conditions as they are, don’t resist them. there is a reason the Universe and God want you to be single right now. Don’t fight it — embrace it. Live and know that things will eventually change. Please know that you are not alone, but you still have your life, so live and let live! Embrace change and know that there are many wonderful people out there!”
I have experienced that very thing…and it’s been a good thing!
Love to you, and thank you for sharing and encouraging us.
ST
Hi Miss Krystal,
Great article….Yes! YES! Yes!….many good points in this article…YES!
Personally speaking…I LOVE being single…but I am an exception and tend to be a happy hermit anyway.
My own personal philosophy is as follows :
If the right one comes along, so be it,
….and contrary to what my Mother thinks,
LOL,I AM open to love, BUT he has to be the right person for me……NO settling for any man that comes along and whispers sweet nothings in THESE ears of mine.
However, if he never comes along, then I will go stay happily, joyfully,and busily single.
The key word is happy….I can stay single because, first and foremost, I’m happy with myself, my psychic work,my teaching in the psychic field,volunteer activities and my life and extended family.
I’m printing this article out and taping it to my 70+ year old Mothers’ fridge so she will stop her matchmaking efforts!…( hopefully)
ha ha LOL!
Blessed Be )O(
Gina Rose ext.9500
Very nice article! As Miss Kryatal points out the key to this is to be ready to recieve when the time is right stay open and circulate. The love of your life will have a real hard time finding you if you put yourself into hiding. Live your life and ask to recieve and watch the blessings happen.
Many Blessings
~Abigail~