Sexuality 101

You are always a sexual being – no matter when, how, if, or with
whom you choose to express that fact. Keeping that in mind, have you
ever really taken the time to understand who you are sexually – and
what you truly desire? Whether we are young, old, single or partnered…
we all need to figure this out.

Once you know who you are as a sexual being, and what makes you tick, it’s easier to let go of any inhibitions you might have, and help your sex life achieve its full potential.

Every picture tells a story
Sexuality is more than just a series of sex acts. It is about your experiences, your social life, your relationships – and how you present yourself. Sexuality is a natural, healthy part of living that includes the physical, spiritual and emotional realms of your life. Everyone expresses their sexuality in many different ways.

Our sexuality includes our way of viewing sex – including how we exude and express it. Sexuality is about beauty, creativity, self-expression and self-exploration. It’s an ongoing journey throughout our lives. Your sexuality is yours alone, and no one can take that away from you. Remember that you’re the one who has to live in your body for the rest of your life. So make sure you like and enjoy who you are! Remember also that sexuality is part of the package you were presented with when you were born. It is with you throughout your life, and is wrapped around every part of who you are – so enjoy it!

Who are you?
Exploring your sexuality in the bedroom doesn’t mean you need to rush out and experiment with every little thing. It simply means you need to be aware of your own feelings of attraction and desire. Are you in touch with those feelings? Or do you suppress them? Sometimes we allow ourselves to become influenced by society, guilt, fear or shame. As a result. we can form a habit of repressing our sexual desires and fantasies.

What we really need to do is to get honest with ourselves, and accept our deepest desires. Take a moment to ask yourself these questions:

Are you fighting feelings of shame, or are you sexually fancy-free?

Do you feel good about your sexuality?

What would enhance it?

Get what you want
Understanding where you stand with your sexuality gives you a window of possibilities that might not have been there before. If you are in a sexual relationship, ask yourself if you’re honestly getting your needs met. And if you aren’t in one now, have you truly been satisfied in the past? If your answer is yes – well then, give yourself a huge round of applause. If you answered no, there is still some work to be done.

Inhibitions may need to be dealt with, as well as shyness – or the insecurity that keeps you from speaking up… or allowing yourself what you want. Remember, nobody is a mind-reader – lovers don’t automatically know what you like or what you want. If you can’t feel comfortable talking to your lover, then what’s the point? Why not just ask for what you need, and have sex that rocks your world?

Remember, your sexuality is who you are. Satisfying it is an important element of life. Among other good things, it moves us toward that phenomenal connection with one another that most of us crave. It is also an important part of the equation that helps us experience true intimacy and contentment in life. And there’s nothing better than that!