One Simple Secret to Finding the Love of Your Life

Looking for Love in All the Right Places…

Where should you be looking for real love? It comes down to one cardinal rule: never go somewhere to meet people that you wouldn’t go otherwise. Most people do. The question of “Where can I meet people?” often yields the response “At the bar!” or some equally limiting idea.

The problem with this strategy is obvious. If you don’t drink, but you go to the bar to find someone to date, you’re very likely to end up dating someone who you possibly have a fundamental values difference with.

Why spend your time doing things you don’t want to do at places you’d rather not be? It stands to reason that you’d be more likely to find the One at an event, gathering or activity that you enjoy.

So, here’s how to find the One:

1. Make a list of places you like to go. Include places you want to go but haven’t gone yet.

2. Make a list of things you like to do. Include things you’re interested in doing, but haven’t done yet.

3. Commit to going to one place you like to go and/or doing one thing you like to do as soon as possible.

4. Commit to going to one place you like to go and/or doing one thing you like to do at least once a week. Ideally, more than that.

You may not meet the One immediately, but at least you’ll be spending a lot more of your time doing things you want to do. Take the opportunity to enjoy yourself. Make friends. Learn new things. Reinvest in old pastimes, hobbies, and avocations.

There’s no better way to become attractive to the One than to become more fully, glowingly, abundantly yourself. After all, how will the One recognize you if you’re busy pretending you’re someone else?

Lasara Firefox Allen is an author, educator, activist, and coach. Lasara’s first book, the bestselling Sexy Witch (Llewellyn Worldwide), was published in 2005 under the name LaSara FireFox.