Put Your Own Needs First
Whether or not you are single, dating, or in a committed relationship, you must always remain the center of your own universe. If your personal situation allows for it, take care of yourself first and foremost before you take care of anybody else. This means your education, career, living situation, financial plans, hobbies, personal goals, et cetera should be all worked out before you invite someone else into your life.
Once you have these essential areas of your life figured out, then you will have a better chance of pleasing another person. It is when we forget who we are and what we want in life that a mate can become the center of our universe. At that point, it is difficult to reclaim our lives. But it can be done! Get personalized advice, contact a psychic today!
We have all either made the mistake or seen a friend make the mistake of allowing a man to become the center of our universe. This is much like going “all in” on one poker hand. When we put all our focus, energy, and investment on one person, we lose sight of who we are and miss out on opportunities. Though love can be blinding and consuming, try to retain your life vision at every point leading up to and in a committed relationship.
Contribute to this important relationship paradigm shift by keeping yourself as the center of the universe no matter what. Ultimately, this will make you a better person that attracts more positive people into your life. For those of us that are used to putting our mates first, four easy and effective things you can do to make yourself the center again are as follows:
1. Spoil Yourself Regularly
Pick one day a week to spoil yourself. Do whatever you want to do, and go wherever you want to go. For me, I would sleep in, go for a long walk in the neighborhood, catch up with old friends on the phone, go shoe shopping, and order in Thai food.
2. Make Choices Even
Make sure that you pick the place to eat and the movie to see just as much as your mate chooses. Sometimes, we get so caught up with pleasing our mate that we too often forego our own preferences. I know I need to speak up more, especially on weekends when we have two whole days to do more activities that I would like to do, such as go to art walks, flea markets, and bowling alleys.
3. Revisit Life Goals
Are there any goals that you put to the side because of all your extra time spent with your mate on his or her hobbies? Personally, I would like to spend more time writing poetry, which I could definitely make more time to do.
4. Call a Psychic in Advance
Physics are experts when it comes to energy, focus, and re-balancing. They can advise you exactly how to rediscover yourself and work on YOU. Moreover, if you are in a complicated relationship, they can guide you through your next steps in re-discovering yourself.
By spoiling yourself more often, sharing your preferences in relationship choices, revisiting your life goals, and calling a psychic for advice, you will be on the path to making yourself the center of the universe again, which is a more natural state to exist in. Of course, once you get married, you will bring your spouse and children into your universe. However, you will always be the sun and your family will be the planets that revolve around your positive bright light.
“Keep your partner happy by being happy yourself.” – Blythe ext. 5339
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10 thoughts on “You Are the Center of the Universe”
OMG None of you people understood her article Go back and read it .She says if you take care of yourself then you can give that same to your family .read the last few sentences plz.
ofcourse, once you get married, you will bring your spouse and children into your universe. However, you will always be the sun and your family will be the planets that revolve around your positive bright light.she is not saying don’t look after your family that was so sweet .Thank you
You will never succeed with I, I first.
You will never see peace if I I first.
This article is really an inspiration. Who I am and what I want to do now after my divorce. It’s so easy to get cought up in what your partner wants instead of what you want, rather it be knowing whats for dinner or where u want to travel to next. I found myself all the time saying whatever you want babe I don’t care knowing I really did care but just to please him. Now starting all over after 9 years will be a challenge but when the next person comes into my life it will be that much better. Never lose focus of who you are ..
Thinking of yourself all time helps me as a woman and when I do I feel so much better. When I was married I always put my family first and never me, I was suffering in marriage. So I got out of and now I’m free, to do what I want when I want.
I can relate to this, I have learned after alifetime of putting others 100% first I lost my happiness as I sacrificed for them, now I am learning to be me! Buy what I want when I can, party when I can, entertain or be entertained when I wish, but never lose your self 100% to others as you will end up unfulfilled! This is maintaining YOUR identity.
my sister told me a long time ago a fact that i really take to heart-
“if you are on a plane with your child sitting next to you and the air masks come down, put the mask on you first… that way you can breath and maintain calm in order to put the air mask on your child”.
if we do not care for ourself first and foremost how can we be effective helping others.
by taking care of yourself first it allows you to become selfless.
buddha bless.
-quinn
Stellar article, Melody !!!!!
Always, always, maintain your own identity in a relationship. Because if you do that, you will never lose sight of yourself or lose sight of your own essential needs.
REALLY liked this article.
The #1 step to take was omitted from this list – maintain your other relationships. Make time with friends a priority every week.
It used to be called selfish to think of yourself first. Now we all know better. You can’t give away what you don’t have. This is great advice. Put yourself first.