Sexually Adventurous: Is a Menage a Trois for You?

 Menage a Trois the Right Way!

Recently, I’ve had several clients ask me if bringing a third partner into the bedroom could spice up their relationship. We’re talking about a menage a trois or threesome. Having sex with two partners at once is a fantasy that many people in committed, loving relationship have, but don’t often carry out. For those who do, a world of unexpected events easily unfolds with rapid and unstable results if the necessary steps aren’t taken in advance of their night of pleasure. If you, or you and your partner are considering a menage a trois, you should definitely read this first.

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Interpreting Your Request

When you ask your partner about having a menage a trois, here’s how they could misinterpret your words:

1. They don’t please you the way you wanted to be pleased.

2. You’re bored with the relationship.

3. You’re looking for a new sexual partner, and they can either get on board with this and be part of it, or you’ll leave them.

So what’s your partner to do? They can either happily agree to your request, agree begrudgingly, or refuse. And if they refuse, they may fear being called a prude or selfish. They could grow to resent you for asking, and you could grow to resent them for not complying. But what if your partner is into it?

Basic Ground Rules

Let’s say you and your partner are both open to and excited about having a menage a trois. What’s the next step? You should consider creating basic ground rules. I have outlined a few below; some may apply to your relationship, while others may not. Feel free to create your own ground rules, and make sure you do them before you invite someone else into your bed. Any insecurities are sure to come to the surface if careful planning and deep discussions have not happened.

You both need to be very clear on what you expect from this sexual encounter. You need to decide what type of person you’re looking for. Are they male or female? Are they a friend or a total stranger? Where can you go to find them? What are they allowed to do with you? What can they do with your partner? What’s off limits? What kind of protection will you use? What expectations do you and your partner have? Is this a one-time deal or something you’ll regularly incorporate into your lovemaking? Why are you looking for a third partner? Is there a gap in your relationship you’d like this third person to fill? Take a lot of time to figure all this out. Clear and honest communication is a must in any relationship, but it is especially necessary in a menage a trois.

Basic Female Biology

Let’s not forget our basic biology. For women, an orgasm releases a hormone called oxytocin in massive amounts. Why do you need to know about it? Oxytocin in the “love hormone,” and when it comes to a menage a trois, it can be a bit dangerous. That’s because this hormone can make a woman believe that she has found the partner of her dreams—it can make he believe she has fallen in love. Make sure everyone involved is aware that this is a purely physical connection.

A Gateway to Other Fantasies 

Do you have any other sexual fantasies? Your new playmate may have experiences with all types of fetishes or sexual expressions, like bondage, costume play and more. What better way to dive into this world than with the guidance of an expert in the safety, comfort and privacy of your bedroom.

Your Relationship’s Foundation

If your relationship with your partner is built on a strong and mutually respectful foundation, and if you have ensured that your communication is open and honest, there is no reason to deny yourself this encounter. However, if there is any hesitation or reservation from either of you, please put more consideration into this action before any real damage can be done.

Many couples have a menage a trois and move on. They look at it as a bucket list experience and once they’ve done it, they don’t have the desire to do it again. Other couples like it so much they regularly incorporate it into their lovemaking. Whatever you decide to do, don’t do it on a whim, thinking there will be few consequences. There is nothing casual about this type of sexual encounter, so don’t treat it like it’s no big deal, because it is.

Celebrating Sexual Diversity

Human sexuality is complicated and diverse. What turns one person on, may not turn on another, and vice versa. What happens between two (or three!) consenting adults is their business, and I want you to know that as your psychic, if you call me you are entering into a nonjudgmental space. Never be afraid to express and explore your desires or curiosities, especially with your partner!

Have fun!

Psychic Jesse ext. 9027