Spotting a player is one thing, but knowing that you’re a player is an entirely different thing altogether. There are several levels of players, with the man-eater being the upper echelon for women. If you’re curious as to whether you’re a mini-player or full blown man-eater, read the seven descriptors below. If you’re guilty of one or two of these actions, you’ve probably played the field, but haven’t rocked the love boat too bad. If you identify with five or more of these descriptions, there’s a good chance that you’re a mom’s worst nightmare, and probably also your own!
1. You Use Sex as a Weapon Against Guys
Man-eaters use whatever they have to gain leverage against guys, and one of their most valuable assets… is free sex. Whether it’s holding the possibility of sex over a guy to get your way, or using your three greatest sexual assets (legs, midriff, and cleavage) to get attention, the man-eater knows what she’s got, and isn’t afraid to use it. You aren’t necessarily looking for sex, but using it as bait to lure your next victim (or ex) into your clutches.
2. You Have a String of Exes You Still Sleep With
Since the majority of your relationships are most likely non-committed (whether he knows it or not), when a relationship ends, you will be neither too upset or poised to do what’s right by him. This is why you’ll usually find yourself stuck among a long string of exes that continue to call long after the break-up. Considering you like the attention and convenience of having a built-in booty-call roster, you’ll usually let them hang around awhile as long as they know their place, and allow you to stay in control.
3. Your Life is One Big Secret
Nobody wants to be labeled a player, so in order to stay in the game it’s essential to keep as low profile as possible. To accomplish this, you may find yourself lying on a regular basis to cover up the fact that you’re dating several guys at once. You may avoid hook-ups in the broad daylight or public places to minimize the possibility of your guys running into each other. Man-eaters tell guys what they want to hear, rather than dealing with the truth, which would only cramp their style.
4. It’s Difficult to Nail You Down to Plans
The man-eater is difficult to pin down because you live life waiting for the next best thing. You prefer to make last minute plans. You do not offer commitment to anything, even if it’s only for one date. This roller coaster ride often works to your advantage, as while he may be disappointed when you stand him up (roller coaster low), he will be all the more happy when you do actually come through (roller coaster high).
5. You Avoid All Major Events
Family reunions, birthdays, and weddings are difficult for the man-eater, as it means being cast under the watchful eyes of relatives. Whether it’s showing up to your own functions or being slipped under the microscope of his, you avoid these major events, preferring to keep distance from anything that might label you a “couple.” If he’s always reaching out to you and you never reciprocate, you’re probably not into him, but are enjoying the attention too much to let him go.
6. You Avoid All Talks About the Relationship
The man-eater knows the best way to string multiple guys along, is to keep the relationship a mystery. While deep conversations are pertinent to building a solid relationship foundation, you are not concerned about a good relationship, but just having fun. After all, it is these very conversations that promote deep feelings and understanding, which is something you’ll want to avoid. Guys that get too attached, become more trouble than their worth once cast into ex-status.
7. Can’t Remember the Last Time You Did Something Nice for a Guy
Man-eaters are selfish. You’ve become so accustomed to accepting gifts of kindness, you’ve forgot how to return them. If you do go out of your way to make a guy happy, there is most likely a motive. More times than not, he will fail to show his appreciation in the way you imagined, and he’ll be cast off the love boat. The guy who does reciprocate appropriately will grow boring, as it’s hard to respect a guy who’s a door mat. In other words, these guys will all fail no matter what they do.
If this sounds like you, stop, drop, and roll, as you are headed in the direction of a very burned and rocky life!
4 thoughts on “7 Signs You’re a Man-Eater”
Perhaps I might find this article more believable if it were written by a woman. But from what I read this is a man’s projection of his own sexual anatomy thinking processes to judge the woman who is seeking to find a life long partner. From my 20 years of research, what I find, sex is love to women and sex is Not love to men. Women do not Lure men, but men think they do. It is literally impossible to lure a man, have you ever tried? Men have been accusing women of this act since the dark ages. It’s not true. Men love to stare at naked women for their own pleasure, that’s fine, but when you put a mirror in her hand and judge her for it, that is just rude. This is the typical story found in men that date rape in this article, what did SHE do to deserve being raped? I am appalled to say in the least this article exists. Did Monica Lewinsky Lure Clinton? Or was Clinton a victim to his own sexual wants and desires in encouraging his own sexual gratification being played out with Monica? Can’t be both people, pick one, and stop judging the woman for being a beautiful creature men want. Men heads up your days of blaming the woman for your weakness in desiring her is ending. *Coughs* Tiger Woods is a victim of luring women? Give me a break.
Wow. What a fantastic article. I am so happy to read this, as the mentioned behaviour is exactly the same as a man from my past. I now have the missing pieces.
The part that was most sad for me was “it is these very conversations that promote deep feelings and understanding, which is something you’ll want to avoid. Guys that get too attached, become more trouble than their worth once cast into ex-status.” …. I was one of those women who got too attached too soon so I was cast off straight away cos i wud become too much trouble once becoming an ex. It hurts so much. I have no idea how these ppl can do this simply for attention.
Thanks again.
Hi, Eric,
Thanks for a great article!
I think you covered all of the “aspects” of being a man eater. It’s my belief that anyone who is rigourously playing the field is, either conciously or unconciously avoiding the possibiity of getting close to anyone. Maybe too many romantic bumps and bruises to try again?
Sincerely,
Maryanne
X9146
Hi Eric,
Great article, too often when a person is a “man eater” a player if you will, they have there insecurities to hide or protect, they feel if a person gets to know them on a deeper level they may not like who they really are, nor be accepted.
Blessings and Big Hugs!
Jacqueline x9472