Crossing the Line Between Flirting and Friendliness

Tell the difference between flirting and friendliness. Flirting can cross a line can include extended eye contact and touching. Are you a flirt?

How Far is Too Far?

The advantages of subtle flirting are many, from receiving extra discounts at the store, to establishing a quick way to advance in your job (studies suggest flirting can boost your career). However to many men, a flirt is a flirt. It doesn’t matter if it is accompanied by a smile, hair flip, butt wiggle, or dotted line. The problem with flirting is not that some guys don’t know how to take it, but that a lot of women don’t know when they’ve taken it too far. Let’s draw an invisible line in  the gray area between the concept of flirting and friendliness.

Girls, Slow Down… You’re Flirting Faster Than Us Guys Can Keep Up!

Flirting-on-the-go, describes the men and women who are finding dates during their morning commute to work. In fact, some surveys suggest that over half of these men and women are succeeding over a third of the time with some sort of romantic connection. What is perhaps even more interesting is that the success (or popularity) of these flirts has little to do with who is the most beautiful or friendly, but rather who is throwing out the most bread crumbs. A true master of her art can travel through life at 35 flirts per hour, and end up with up to 32 reciprocated advances from various guys throughout a single day. Everybody likes to receive a warm fuzzy. However, if you are a single woman, and wondering why that hasn’t changed, try saving the warmest fuzzies for that special someone, because he will notice, and appreciate the special effort.

Eye Contact is the Deciding Factor

We’ve been taught that holding good eye contact is the secret to establishing a connection with another human being. The problem is, if we allow this power to unleash itself, we can easily turn the resulting respect into an infatuation (romance). The typical glance at a passerby is only a brief 1.8-second interlude, which is nothing to get excited about. Where someone’s glance becomes significant, it is when it is extended beyond three seconds. This is because the ventral striatum portion of the brain accepts all extended stares as an invitation to fall in love (infatuation). Unless you want a man to experience those “special feelings,” you may want to keep your eye contact strong, but subjected to brief interludes. This gives the same focus and attention, but discourages men from getting the wrong idea.

Touchy-Touchy

We are not a particularly touchy society, so when a woman decides to initiate contact with a man, he may not know how to take it. While women are aware of any motion towards her shoulder, knee, and face, a man can get excited by any amount of contact. Most experts would agree that a confident hand shake is always appropriate, but reserve most other friendly touching for family, good friends, and love interests. Feeling a bit too rushed in love? Astrologer Psychic Shauna ext. 9010 can see what’s pushing you out of your comfort zone.

A Professional Flaunts Their Personality… a Love Interest Accentuates Their “Assets”

Some women like to draw the attention of men, even in a professional setting. However, flaunting a great personality is one thing; flaunting your devilish cleavage, or any other lady lumps, says more about you than just that you have a sexy body. In the monkey kingdom a butt in the air is like a cattle call, screaming, “Come and get it.” It’s better to flirt using your mind, especially if you are looking for a meaningful relationship. Are they just a fling or is there potential for a deep, soul connection? Vega knows.

Guys, This is When She’s Really Happy to See You

Studies show that the muscles used to create those unpopular lines, known as crows feet, when we smile, are primarily flexed via your autonomic nervous system. This means that you have to have a positive feeling about someone, in order to produce the kind of smile that could melt a stick of butter. A guy can know the difference between a woman who is looking for something (money, promotion, etc.), versus having something to give (love, respect, etc.), simply by taking notice of how brightly she smiles each time he walks into a room.