Most of us find ourselves in some type of relationship pattern, good or bad. Sometimes, however, ending a relationship we know we need to get out of seems close to impossible. Check out these warning signs that you may need outside help, or an intervention of sorts, to get out and stay out – once and for all:
1. You leave your partner repeatedly, yet always return against your own best judgment and/or the advice of family and friends.
2. If you try to leave, you partner threatens you, your children, family, friends or pets.
3. Your partner is violent with you, your children and has a tendency to destroy items when angry.
4. Your partner pressures you sexually, or forces sex against your will.
5. Your partner humiliates you or openly engages in affairs.
6. Your partner controls your finances and freedom to the point that you have little to no independence or personal choice.
Points to keep in mind:
1. There’s no such thing as being abused “just a little.” Abuse is abuse is abuse!
2. It’s only happened one or two times – studies and personal experience show, in almost all cases, abuse continues and most likely escalates over time. It doesn’t just go away or magically get better.
3. Even in cases where no physical or sexual violence has been present, mental , verbal and emotional abuse can be just as detrimental, and is often more difficult to understand and heal.
There is a way out of an abusive relationship, and most often we need extra support to get out and stay out.
Resources:
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Resources by State @ http://www.ncadv.org/
National Domestic Violence Hotline @ 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) – A crisis intervention and referral phone line for domestic violence.
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Hi,
Thanks for a great article regarding domestic violence and abuse with clear points for readers to follow.
Not only will an abuser blame his rage and anger on the abused person, one often finds that anger is the only emotion an abuser has.
Contact one of the numbers in this excellent article and get out so you can start to heal and live, really live the rest of your life.
Sincerely,
Maryanne
Ext. 9146
Great and needed article, Giovanna! Lived through many of these and now write about them in the hopes of helping others too. I would have gotten out much sooner if I had had outside help, family, support, something. However I didn’t and had to find the strength to do it on my own. For me it was when my youngest and special needs son was being verbally abused by his father. That was it for me and God gave me the strength and wisdom to get us out of there. We are lucky to be alive and even more lucky to be healed from the verbal & mental abuse. That took much longer!
Thank you for sharing your wonderful wisdom and insight with us all. You are helping so many!
Many Hugs & Blessings,
Coreen
Hi,
I work with victims of domestic violence and this is an excellent article……
….and if I may add one more point…..an abuser has no sense of fairness or accountability in any situation……he is the type to blame his rage and anger on you…..many times starting his sentence’s off with ” Look what YOU made me do”…..or ” This is all YOUR fault “. ……or ” If you hadn’t done that or said that “.
And they never, NEVER hit just once.
Blessed Be )O(
Gina Rose ext.9500