When it comes to having great sex stories, the true champions are not young rockstars or newlyweds, but rather the frisky grandma and grandpas around the world. A new study reported by the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, asked married couples over the age of 60 what was their secret to successful marriages. They found great sex actually appeared to evolve in a forward motion as a relationship matured, rather than devolve, as most people would think.
For those of you who feel your sexual relationship with your partner is on a backwards facing hill, here are some real sex tips from the people who have been saying, I love you, for the past 40 years or more:
Stay Present in the Present
One of the biggest killers of intimacy is not being in a present state of mind. Some couples, especially those in turmoil, tend to focus on other things when making love, rather than the task at hand. They think about getting the kids lunches ready for school, they think about the poor sex that happened the week before, they think about the fact that their partner forgot to take out the trash that morning.
Mature couples tell young couples not to sweat the small stuff, and relish in the moments they can ground themselves with their partner, allowing their energies to intertwine and become one.
Tune Into Your Partner
The art of communication can mean many things, but one of the most important parts of fostering an intimate, love relationship, is sharing ourselves. This means our fears, concerns, joys, and pleasures. In order to do this, couples need to get in sync with each other, learning to listen, respect, and respond to both verbal and non-verbal cues. By tuning into your partner, not only will it allow your spiritual bond to strengthen, but also your sexual bond. Making love should be about communicating each others desires, and then learning how to rock each others world!
Break Down Your Walls
We all have walls we fortress ourselves around. While most good relationships have very few of these, there are usually a few aspects of ourselves we choose not to share with our partner. These are usually due to embarrassment, or concern of overstepping our bounds. Our best sex comes from sharing, taking risks, and being uncritical/unselfconscious of ourselves. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner what it is you truly want in the bedroom, including your dreams, fantasies (sex pictures, sex videos, etc), and deepest, darkest desires. If you never share, how can you expect those dreams to come true?
Prepare for a Lifetime of Sexual Adventure
It has been said that very few people could ever accomplish all they have set out to do in a lifetime. The same thing should be said for their sex lives. Sex should be a constant discovery of each other. None of us are constant beings. We are forever changing our minds, passions, and desires, and our sex life should reflect upon that. If you feel your relationship is cooling off, perhaps you should first ask yourself if it is passion that’s disappearing, or the time you used to spend discovering new things about each other. When was the last time you invited your partner on a sexual adventure?
Learn the Beauty of Vulnerability
Many of us were taught as children that vulnerability denotes weakness and a lack of self reliance. In truth, vulnerability in love, promotes honesty, self-confidence, and the healing of past wounds, which might otherwise continue to affect our life and relationships. While surrendering yourself can leave you open to greater hurt, its strength lies in the bond that is created when lovers share their vulnerabilities equally. Sexually, this means standing before one another naked, both physically and emotionally, allowing our souls to be penetrated until we learn how to grow together as loving, spiritual entities.
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i have changed physically for the worse (im very overweight because of ill health and medication) im no longer a good looking person ,my husband works all the time on his new business and when he comes home he falls asleep downstairs while im upstairs in bed ,also my 12 yr old daughter insists on sleeping with me ..ive stopped ASKING for sex i feel humilated at having to ask for it or bringing up the subject, but feel our youth we are both 39 is slipping away and he may be able to relieve himself by masturbating (which he never owns up to ) im stuck because of my daughter ,im very frustrated
carra xx
Hey Eric,
I love it! Grammies & Grampies gone wild. Just because there is snow on the roof does not mean there’s no fire in the furnance.
Many Blessings
~Abigail~
Thinkerbelle,
Congratulations to your parents! What a wonderful example they are.
As the bulk of the population in this country is composed of baby-boomers, very few of us still look as we did at 19, but I am a great believer that our sex lives can continue to grow and become even more satisfying.
Who said the most important sexual organ we have is our brain?
Sincerely,
Maryanne
Ext. 9146
What you didn’t talk about was the aging body and how acceptance of each other has to be unconditional. My parents are in their 80’s and though I tell my mom to please spare me the details, they apparently still do the deed and are very proud of it. They are very happily married to this day.