Is Facebook leading to infidelity? CNN Health recently suggested that this may indeed be the case—while in the past, past relationships were usually left in the past and forgotten, leaving not a few photographs, leftover items and memories, now our exes may constantly haunt our lives, “liking” all of our Facebook posts and constantly subjecting us to photo updates of their lives. What does this spell for the future of dating, and moving on with the future while allowing the past to be itself?
CNN Health reports:
While the movie “The Social Network” may be Oscar history, Facebook is creating real-life dramas that lead to anything but Hollywood happy endings. In the last couple of years, I’ve seen scores of relationships destroyed by what I call “Facebook bombs” – blasts from the past that leave a relationship shattered to pieces.
If you or your mate are spending too much time strolling down a digital Memory Lane, an emotional affair could be in the works. Here’s how to Facebook-proof your relationship:
Don’t romanticize the past at the expense of the present.
I’m hearing this real-life story more often: A tale of high school sweethearts trying to go “back to the future,” only to realize they should have been content to leave those memories in that old shoebox in storage.
In the end, we’re only human. We all romanticize the past, men and women alike. And no memories are more potent than those first youthful fumblings. We tend to remember the good parts and forget the bad.
What do you think—is Facebook a positive force when it comes to modern relationships, allowing people to get together easier—or does it do more harm than good? (Especially in light of the recent news that Facebook is giving away personal data and addresses…)
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infidelity!….thanks to facebook,…got all the proof of his infidelity..which he denied profusely and/or expertly covered his lengthy absences. she posted pictures galore of them, length ‘in a relationship’ which was constantly changing in every post, activities they did with dates and times….this by a 43-year old ‘girl’.
Really was still ‘in love’ and tried to work it out, but can only take so much..he is no longer in my life….now ‘in love’ with life and so happy.
Note: he ‘camps’ at her ‘daddy’s’ condominium (sleep/bath/eat)….yes she lives with daddy-dearest….yet she’s NOT THE ONE….he still taking up company with other females….saw with my own eyes (so funny).
This is one reason why I disconnected my old account. This Internet Friendship/dating stuff is ridiculous in my humble opinion.
Hi,
The other thing I’ve noticed, as I did a little survey, is that men don’t change ( and don’t care to change ) or update their Facebook page as often as the ladies do out there…..kind of like a gender difference thing. It’s just not as crucial or important to most men, to keep their page current, as it is to women.
Just as men are more likely to change the oil in their automobile like clockwork than women are………women are more apt to keep their facebook page current and to the minute. Very interesting in the way that both genders use the technological avenues of communication today.
But I agree with The Lovely Duckling & Miss Krystal , if self control and good judgement are regularly employed, Facebook can be a beneficial experience and tool.
Great article !
Blessed Be )O(
Gina Rose ext.9500
Thanks Krishna, I always enjoy your articles. This particular one, especially, because, it appears that the Internet has a lot of cheating temptations-Yet, on the other hand, the Internet has created so many positive advantages, as an entire whole. Honestly, I believe this is where folks need to use better judgement.
However, I have heard many men tell me that if they wanted to cheat, they could cheat at their jobs, the gas station or corner store. Hmmmm….
I am sure I am one of many psychics that has heard nightmare facebook stories, and have had many people, including men, call in shock over something they found on facebook.
As a reader, I can see where facebook could be divisive, as well as reuniting. It’s a total paradox. I wish I could say this is a simple thing, but there appears to be so many “Gray” areas to facebook, that I would suggest a psychic reading in order to get clarity and guidance.
Blessings to all,
Miss Krystal
HI Krishna Bill,
Yes, I believe that Facebook is yet another avenue that can be trecherous to navigate.
If a person generally believes everything they see and read,or has insecurity and trust issues to begin with, then Facebook canbe or become a virtual emotional obstacle course for them.
Excellent article….food for thought.
PS….I’m finding that many EX’s use Facebook now, to wreack havoc on a x-spouses, or x-partner’s life in a mean,vindictive & veangeful way . ( This is truly where getting a psychic reading can be beneficial).
Blessed Be )O(
Gina Rose ext.9500
I’ve seen many friends (male and female) re-connect with old loves, and out of current loneliness, only remember what they want from those relatioinships. Making more of what ‘was’ than there ever ‘was’ in the hopes of finding current happiness or fullfillment. Sometimes 2 old loves do find that second chance! When that’s the case it’s an Awesome Happy ending! However that seems to be few and far between in these ‘re-connections’. More times than not, people just convience themselves that the ‘grass is going to be greener’ back in that old or new relationship, than it is in their current one of day routines and responsibilities. It’s sad when so many jump in and out of relationships without trying or seeing the realities of what a ‘fantasy’ future may or may not hold.
Great thought provoking post, Krishna!!
Hugs & Blessings to you,
Coreen @ VOS
Facebook has become a huge part of our everyday lives. It is a great way to stay in touch with people. It gives more of an opportunity to reconnect with people who are no longer in our daily lives or to meet new people we might not have otherwise known. The opportunity can be used to cheat on your real relationship, but it is like anything else in life…there is still a measure of free will involved. Facebook doesn’t cheat for you.
Each person who signs up for a facebook account has the choice of who they allow as ‘friends’. If an ex sends you a friend request, you choose whether or not to accept it. The same is true if you send the request to your ex–he or she has to decide whether or not you get to come back into his or her life. Infidelity on facebook can’t happen inadvertantly.
There are certainly negative things about facebook that are beyond our control like our private information becoming visible to all the world. There are negative things about facebook that we have more control such as how much time we spend using it. There is no way to cheat on facebook without trying.
Using facebook isn’t the only way people enter into emotional affairs. If we blame facebook, then we also need to blame text messages, cell phones, land lines, telegraphs, hand-written letters, chance face-to-face meetings and even day dreams. But really, we shouldn’t shift the blame onto anyone or anything else but ourselves and the choices we make.