Figuring Out a Situationship
A
situationship is generally a casual, indeterminate relationship. They’re formed
out of coincidence or convenience, and people don’t usually enter into them
with much forethought. Situationships often form between people who exist in
close proximity, such as neighbors or coworkers. Typically, the relationship
forms after multiple instances of contact that become habitual without a
discussion about what the involved parties want from a relationship. If you’re
not sure whether you’re in a situationship, ask yourself the following
questions:
Do you know how to define the relationship? Do you know what the two of you expect from each other? Do you know how the other person feels about you? If the answer to most or all of these questions is “no,” then you’re probably in a situationship.
If everyone involved feels truly content with the relationship as it is and does not secretly desire anything else, a situationship can be a great experience. However, it’s fairly common for at least one person in the relationship to start wanting something more. In that case, if there is no clear communication — whether it is due to a fear of rejection, an aversion to conflict, a desire to be seen as “low maintenance,” or something else entirely — this can quickly sour the dynamic into something negative.
To
prevent things from going wrong, it’s important to navigate each and every situationship
with care. If you’re strategic and self-aware in your approach, you can keep the
relationship healthy and positive for everyone involved.
1. Embody the Dynamic
Feel
comfortable leaning into the lack of commitment. Don’t assume what the other
person wants, and definitely don’t try to alter your behavior based on those
speculations. Turn your focus inward and figure out how you want to behave on
any given day. A common trait of situationships, after all, is that you have
not agreed to or shared many expectations. As such, it’s important that you don’t
act on expectations that haven’t been explicitly expressed, and don’t presume
that your partner will put more into your connection unless you ask them to.
Only
reach out when you genuinely want to, don’t hide your true self, don’t share
things that you’d rather keep private, and make decisions based on what is best
for you.
2. Remain Flexible
Because
situationships generally don’t involve a lot of communication, things may be
unpredictable. You may see each other every day for a while, then suddenly go
three weeks without seeing each other at all. The other person may share
something that makes you want to get to know them better — or something that makes
you want to end things. Go with the flow and see how you like it. You may learn
that the lack of structure helps you thrive, or you might decide that you hate
it. The insight you gain into yourself and the sense of adaptability you
develop will be invaluable.
3. Experiment With the Freedom
People
spend so much time feeling like their personal worth is defined by their
romantic and intimate relationships. Being in a situationship grants you the
unique opportunity to experience a degree of intimacy and closeness without having
an obligation to a committed partner or needing to shape your life around
anyone else. Explore a hobby that you’ve always wanted to try, or return to a
passion project that you’d previously put on hold.
Consider
dabbling in nonmonogamy while you aren’t living under the structures of a
relationship (though remember that it’s important to be honest and open with
people about how many partners you’re seeing in order to respect everyone’s
consent and safety). While you aren’t under an obligation to live according to someone
else’s desires, honesty and transparency are always vital to human connection. Be
straightforward!
4. Embrace the Unknown
Maybe you are in a situationship because you’re unsure what you desire from romance. All too often, people feel pushed to make decisions before they really understand what they want. One of the blessings of a situationship is that it can give you the time and space you need to figure out what you desire organically. Go with the flow, enjoy yourself, and don’t stress about what you don’t know. You can learn a lot about yourself when you leave space for your feelings to emerge.
5. If It Doesn’t Work, Change It
Situationships may offer some people the freedom they need, but the lack of clarity may stress others out. If the absence of commitment doesn’t work for you, change your dynamic or reach out to clarify your relationship. This will end your situationship as you know it, but you may wind up in a committed relationship instead — or the relationship could end altogether. That may seem scary, but it’s worth it. If you are unhappy, you shouldn’t stay still just because you want to avoid rocking the boat.
Making a Situationship Work for You
Situationships can be tricky. You can sometimes even find yourself in one without even knowing how you got there. And once you’re there, you may not know how you feel or what you want to do next. If possible, give yourself some time and space before you make any decisions, and consider implementing some of the above suggestions. Ultimately, do what feels right to you. There is no wrong way to go about this as long as you’re honest with both your partner and yourself. If you need further insight or an outside perspective, a conversation with a spiritual leader or Love Psychic may be able to offer the guidance you need.
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