Porn for Women: A Primer

Another Component of Your Sexual Expression

Perhaps you’re curious about porn. Or maybe you’re intimidated by it. Or maybe you’re angry about it. Or maybe you’re titillated by it. Or, all of the above.

It’s very common for women, especially women above a certain age, to have ambivalent and confused feelings about pornography. Or even about sex itself. You’re supposed to want it, but not want it too much. You’re supposed to be available, but not slutty.

It can be hard to find stable ground to stand on.

Add in the fact that if you have taken a chance and viewed some porn, it may have left you feeling cold. After all, most of what’s out there caters to men, and much of it either mechanical looking or totally lacking in the chemistry department.

However, if you’re willing to put some time in, you’ll be able to find something that rocks your boat. All it takes is knowing where to start.

So, in adventuring into the land of porn, there are a few things to take into account:

1. What has motivated your exploration? Is it that the idea just turns you on? It is that you want to introduce porn into your love life in order to bump it up a notch? Has your man invited you to share the experience of porn with him?

2. What are you hoping to get out of your experience? More comfort in your sexual expression? Learn some new tips? Get over some fears about sex and porn? Get to a point of understanding the allure better? Add some spice to your sex life?

Knowing what you want out of your experience will help you to find what you want. Another thing to consider is what makes you feel more comfortable with the idea of porn. These things will give you a good starting point for your adventure.

So, what turns you on?

• Natural bodies?
• Chemistry?
• One-on-one?
• Two girls on guy?
• Two guys one girl?
• Lots of guys one girl?
• Solo stuff?
• Guy on guy?
• Girl on girl?
• Older guys?
• Older women?
• Married couples?
• Amateur?
• High production/Hollywood?

The options are truly limitless. That said, some of it will make your stomach queasy, while some of it will make you super hot!

In addition to knowing what your motivation is, and knowing what you’re looking for, there’s one more thing that will likely make you feel more comfortable. You may want to look for porn while you are not engaged in sex with your partner. There’s nothing that will kill the mood like seeing something that disturbs you mid-coitus.

You can search for porn by yourself if it’s more comfortable. If you take this approach, your man will be extra surprised, and probably just as intrigued and excited when you whisper, “Hey, baby, you want to watch some porn?” in his ear next time you’re getting randy.

Or, you can explore the plethora of porn with your lover. He may even have some favorite clips that he’d like to share with you. And, sharing the journey may naturally lead to a sensual, sexual, exciting experience, if that’s the way the energy flows.

Also, don’t pay for a membership to a site that may or may not meet your needs. The free site PornHub.com is the way to go, at least until you’ve narrowed your field. Perhaps then it will be time to find a membership site that caters exactly to your tastes.

All of these ideas will make your foray into the land of porn more easy, exciting, and ultimately satisfying. Happy trails!