There are times that we have a relationship that ends and we cannot figure out if we should keep trying or let things go. Many cases it is someone not being truthful or scared to do the right thing so they skirt around the reality of the relationship and keep you hanging. Carmen dissects this dilemma and great advice on what to do.
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Shannon from South Bend, Indiana asks:
I dated a guy who I thought was going to end up being “the one.” We were with each other for three years. He decided to move to another state and the plan was for me to move also, but when the time came he decided to end the relationship because of the stress he came to when he moved there. He said it wouldn’t be fair to me or us if I would move there when all this was going on with him. So now I still hear from him, and he says he still loves me and misses me, and when he gets his feet on the ground then we can move on together. So my question is, am I wasting my time by waiting on a man that I love? Is he just keeping me lingering in the air and hoping things will work out? Ask a psychic about your situation today!
Carmen Responds:
Dear Shannon,
Honestly, my first gut response is to cringe after reading this. Trust me, I am not a negative person, but I do find there is a lot of truth in some of the dating advice that is out there, especially when trying to figure out if a guy is into you or not.
To me, this sounds like the standard excuse to break something off, while trying to cushion the blow with meaningless excuses and false promises of missing you or loving you. When it comes to love I have learned that a man who really wants to be with you and hates being separated from you will do anything in his power to make it so, regardless of how busy, challenged or afraid he may be. Do his actions match his words? If not, Psychic Rianne ext. 9423 can direct you towards someone better!
I have also been in a similar situation and the truth is, most guys don’t want to be jerks. They don’t want to be perceived as a douche, so they come up with stuff like “It’s just the wrong timing,” or “I really do miss and love you, but you are too good for me.” In your case I am hearing that he is trying to figure out how far he can get without you and is merely keeping you dangling on the sidelines. Or, there is the option that he is simply a coward and doesn’t have the heart to be straight with you. Either way, I have to call b.s. on this one.
If he is really interested in keeping a relationship with you, let him come to you. He will have to walk the walk, instead of merely talking the talk. Stop the contact and stop being at his beck and call while waiting for him to tell you when/if he is ready to continue the relationship.
I’d go out with my friends and start slowly living the single life, i.e. doing things for myself without having him constantly on my mind. When I was in a similar situation, I joined a gym, spent a whole lot of time with my friends, went to the movies, and took care of myself. I didn’t contact him and I moved on with my life. By the time he attempted to contact me (about six months later) I had moved already moved on, and now I am married to the guy I moved on with. Are you pushing him away? Psychic Karmystic ext. 9457 has a better way to communicate your desires.
Good luck, but value and respect yourself enough, so you won’t keep wasting your time waiting for someone else to decide where your life will go! Girl power!
13 thoughts on “Should I Wait for Someone or Let Him Go?”
i am sweety from pakistan i wanna ask you that im very good in everything and very faithfull to others but i never get a positive answer from anyone why is it so?
A message for Shannon, Hi, I’m sorry to say but this bloke ( that’s English for guy) ! Knows he doesn’t want you fully, he’s confused but aware he wants a fresh future, you are just his rope until he’s sure he secure enough to move on. I’m Sorry but he’s doing what suits him. You sound lovely and it’s obvious you have a lot to offer future potentials, be strong, shut his door, and open new ones, it’s hard I’m going through this as well, even bumped into an ex last night and my feelings came flooding back, but I ignored her and her boyfriend she was flirting in front of me, I remained dignified and kept that door firmly closed! Came home got drunk and now I have s bloomin hang over!!! Be realistic and true to what you want, you deserve happiness and that means letting this man go, he doesn’t respect you if your that easy to manipulate, he’s using you whilst he finds his new path. In love respect is key along with trust. Good luck x
I was working over seas get involve with a man happens that I had to go back to my home town to have the baby but I don’t know if things going to work out with us he told me to find something in my home town to do like a business and he would finance it but idk I really love this guy and he is 45 years old and my son his is first son
Its unfortunate when a person that you’re dating is not completely straight with you leaving you in the dark about whether or not you’re on or off. Ignoring the the phone calls doesn’t help either. I guess it’s better to just leave matters alone and move on..
suppose this person has a pesonality disorder and does not know how to handle a long distance relationship?
I have been seeing someone for 6 months! at first he came here then I started to visit him he claimed he had no money we were supposed to meet two weeks ago but I had no money to see him.
He never answers texts or e mails but he did text me to send him dirty texts and again he does not get back to me
He has Aspergers Is this typical or am I wasting my time! we have great chemistry and I am not getting any younger it is rare to find such good chemistry in one so young he is 43 I am 66 I still keep e mailing him I broke it off once but missed him soo I went back
am I a loser?
Have you read Ayn Rands The Fountainhead where he tells her one day we will able to be together, but not until you can get over your issues and he leaves /she marries someone else and finally they are together He was a man of integrity Sometimes it is better to wait and when a man says please wait
WHY WOULD YOU TOTALLY DISRESPECT HIM BY SAYING WELL MEN TELL LIES SO ALL MEN TELL YOU NOTHING BUT LIES UNLESS THE TRUTH IS SELF SERVING ( i don’t particularly like men generally , but I am usually a cynic
BUT THEN I DONT PURPORT TO GIVE GOOD ADVISE WHICH MAY ,IF TAKEN, IMPACT ON A PERSONS WHOLE LIFE
PS Watch the MOVIE Fountainhead if the book is too tedious
I AM WAITING FOR AN ANSWER.BY EMAIL THANK YOU,
PLEASE SEND ME AN ANSWER .THANK YOU.
I DID NOT BREAK UP WITH BUT HE IS THINKING THAT SOME ONE ELSE LOVE ME AND HE WONT ASK ME
PLEASE SEND ME A EMAIL FOR THE ANSWER.
I DONT WANT TO WASTE MY TIME THINKING ABOUT THIS MAN.
MY LOVER LINFORD WILLIAMS CONFESS HOW MUCH HE LOVE .HE LEFT FOR JAMAICA ONE WEEK AGO AND NEVER CALL>DID HE GO TO FIND A NEW LOVER OR NOT.I DONT WANT TO WASTE MY TIME ON THIS MAN HE DONT KNOW WHAT HE WANT. MAHALAH.
listen to this physic I did the most stupidest thing moved to another state who I thought was going to be my last love but it has not worked out as he is a different person than what he portrayed and now I am trying to figure out a way back to what I left behind it is not easy trust me first hand how stupid of me in believing I could find love with this man
live and learn but this was the hard way for sure