It’s More Than Just a Label
Developing a romantic relationship can be a tricky journey, and at times a woman may feel like she’s got to be sensitive to a guy’s potential fear of commitment. However, if you two have reached the point where you know you’ve built something special and exclusive, wearing the “Girlfriend” label may seem like a given. So what do you do when you are out meeting some of his friends and he introduces you as his “friend”?
Get Some Perspective
How long have you two really been dating? Have you spent quality time together developing feelings or does your relationship feel superficial? Have you been together for several months? Are you both looking for a relationship or are you more preoccupied with the fact that you are with someone rather than recognizing your compatibility as a couple? Does he feel the same way about you as you do about him?
Reflect On What You Want
If it’s just about the label or about not being alone, that’s probably your answer to why he won’t call you his girlfriend; neither of you have brought the effort or depth to the relationship to create something of worth. If it’s commitment and love that you want, not only do you need to put in the time, effort, and compromise, but you must choose your partner wisely! Remember that everyone is on his or her best behavior in the beginning of the relationship, and as most men are always hoping for sex, they may be more inclined to tell you what you want to hear in order to get it. Blythe ext. 5339 knows if he is telling you the truth or just telling you what you want to hear. Give her a call if you want to know too!
Face the Facts
The fact of the matter is, if he is not ready to call you his girlfriend, you may have to face the reality that this title is not in your cards at this point. Whatever his reason—a bad past relationship experience, a demanding life schedule that has him stressed about committing to anything more right now, or his current inability to see a future with you—you need to decide if the label is important to you if you are otherwise pleased with the relationship. If you have everything else you want except the title at this point, is the label important enough to rock the boat and potentially bring resentment into the relationship?
Make the Move
If you decide that it is important to wear the label of “Girlfriend” and you believe your relationship reflects what that signifies, then lay it out for him. Either he is committed enough to what you’ve built together to man up to the title, or he’ll skedaddle. In that case, it’s better to know sooner than later whether he’s in it for the long haul or sees you more as a short-term fling.
4 thoughts on “Wait! I’m Not Your Girlfriend?”
I was in the same boat. On and off with a man for 2 yrs. we were exclusive but when I told him I felt more for him he pushed me away. I’ve been giving him time as I’ve spoken to a few psychics and they all say that he will be back when he realizes he might have lost me. I recommend you do the same Julie and Mag. “If you love them set them free if they come back its meant to be.”
MESSAGE TO JULIE I feel that I have been along this path, and eventually the feelings start to creep in and we need more, It seems to me that as long as your available he is empowered, take that away from him, trust me.
Mark, you deserve more long term.
This has come at a time when I needed to reflect on my life & what I want out of it. I’ve been seeing a guy for the past two years, we agreed that due to his work commitments we would stay friends with benefits. We would hook up & spend weekends together when he was home, but we were in daily contact either via sms or internet chat, as a friend said it was a relationship with out being a relationship, as we were compatible in a lot of ways even finishing each others sentences, lol.
Then I get an e-mail saying he has met a single mum whilst working interstate, who would like to take things further with him & even though nothing has happened between them he is unsure if this is what he wants. I told him it was his choice & didn’t contact him for just over a week. Then he started messaging & texting again as if nothing had happened, he even got jealous when I said I was going to a party & had changed my profile photo on the internet messenger.
Now I need to sort myself out, I haven’t met anyone new & I’m not currently interested in meeting anyone as I do have deep feelings for this guy, so Thank You for writing this as I now need to sit & reflect on what I want & if I really want him. Or is he being a Gemini??
i am in this situation myself and my reason not leaving him is okey he meets me oncce a week and i am old to go and find a new one,menn are almost alike anyway so,i just wait for the right time for me to get fed up of my relationship and then i will take the step to go forward…this kind of relationship makes me happy for a moment but unhappy mostly of the time because it lucks nearness and respect…his egoistic reasons are not acceptable but when you care for a man ,you forget yourself……