Does Anybody Know?
If you’ve ever been in a relationship and wondered when to say “I love you,” you’re in really good company. There are millions of people, both male and female, who wonder the same thing.
There have been tons of studies done about this very subject—even one done by some guys at MIT. It seems that when to say “I love you” is not only a loaded question, it’s also a question that’s responded to with many differing opinions. Success coach, Doc Love of AskMen.com feels that men should never say it first. Rather, they should wait for the woman to say it first. Eharmony.com says whoever does say it first will likely say it when they’re about 3 – 6 months into a relationship. Others say that guys are likely to feel it first, but girls are usually the first to actually say it.
Anything Worthwhile is Worth Waiting For
Whether you’re wondering when to say “I love you” or wondering if your lover will say it first, it’s always a good idea to take a step back and make sure you’re not jumping the gun. What if you really wanted your guy/girl to say “I love you” and then once they did you suddenly weren’t so sure you were ready to hear it? What if you said it first and you really meant it, but then you panicked and wished you had waited? There’s one thing that’s for sure: Regardless of who says it first, saying the “L” word changes the landscape of a relationship forever.
Premature Exclamation
Professing love too soon can spell disaster for an otherwise promising relationship. Timing is everything. Suddenly you’re not just dating and enjoying each other, you’re in love, and while that may be a good thing normally, saying it too soon can make you aware of all the pressures and expectations that fall on couples in love. Especially in young-love relationships, saying “I love you” seems to be the catalyst that propels a relationships forward. As soon as someone here’s the “L” word they know that there’s more to follow such as meeting families, engagement and marriage. In other words the fun and enjoyment of dating just moved on to pressure. Not sure if you two are going to get serious? See where your love life is heading with a reading from Psychic Braxton ext. 5699.
Tardy for the Party
Conversely, hemming and hawing about when to say “I love you” can cause a communication breakdown. There’s a feeling you get that maybe you can say it with little chance of being rejected or having the “L” word unreturned, and if you don’t catch that boat when it’s ready to sail, it may depart without you. If you want it to come back, you better be prepared to say those three magic words and mean them. The “L” word should not be taken lightly. Need a more in-depth look at your love life? Get a detailed Venus forecast from astrologer Psychic Joyce ext. 9598.
So, when to say “I love you” looks like it will always be a tricky tightrope walk—it takes you to the next platform or it stops you dead in your tracks. This is one subject better left to timing, intuition and the fates.
10 thoughts on “When to Say “I Love You””
For me…the school of life is to learn about LOVE. Love of self, friends, family and ones beloved. It involves the body, the mind and the soul and is a sensation not a word. Followed by actions. Are your needs being met? (your own responsibility to pick a loving supportive mate) Are you able to love your man/woman unconditionally?Do they inspire you to be the best you can be. When you are with them is the focus time loving and nurturing?
Linda
a student in the school of life
Astrology is not an illusion but a specific branch of Science to study upon the planetary positions and their effects on human(s) life. There are different branches of Indian astrology such as Vedic Astrology, Tantra astrology, Lal Kitab etc. vashikaran-baba belongs to Tantra astrology and particularly deals in Shatkarmas which are Shantikaran, Vashikaran, Uchatan, Videshan, Stambhan and Maran. Maran is dealt only in protective approaches only.
Long before you admit your feelings tell them why you like being with them…Be specific and detailed…
Why do we over analyze everything these days?
Hi,
I met this guy after 3 yrs of online chatting/messenger. But on the first date after 3 yrs I said that i love him. He din return me with the same words. Nor that he met me again since December 2012. He is still in contact with me on messenger though but not regular or the way i wanted him to be after our first meet. Please help me to get the situation favorable and make him feel the same way as I do for him.
Thanks,
Urvashi
Hi,
I met this guy after 3 yrs of online chatting/messenger. But wen i met him, on the first date only i said that i love him. He din return me with the same words. Nor that he met me again since December ’12. He is still in contact with me on messenger though but not regular or the way i wanted him to be after our first meet. Please help me to get the situation favorable and make him feel the same way as I do for him.
Thanks,
Urvashi
Lol this is a great article, I have made the mistake of hearing these words too soon and out of kindness and compassion for the other person I said it back. I was quite surprise that they were saying those words since it was too soon.
Boy oh Boy how much I wish that I had not reciprocate those words. I fail to realize at the time that some people use these words too casually sometimes or as a way of getting their way. Today am more cautious and I prefer not too be put on the spot again, I believe that actions and time is enough said.
I was with a guy and he says I love you all the time to me but does not back the words up
can you please tell me how this is possible
I really do not know if we should further this relationship
can you give me some advice
thanks
confused
JUST DO IT!
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