What do you do when you realize your soulmate is married to someone else? Will they eventually choose me? First let’s realize that soulmate is an often misunderstood phrase.
What to Do When the Dream Gets Away
Soulmate is an oft-misunderstood phrase. I prefer to refer to a deep spiritual connection as a “Soul to Soul” connection, so that we can understand that there are indeed multiple opportunities for us to connect with another “human” on a spiritual and soulful level. There is no “right” or “wrong” answer that fits for this situation all the time, or for every experience. What you have is a situation that requires choices, wisdom, and action—not judgement. To really determine clearly what your path is, call your favorite psychic and give them some of the details, the more detailed the question, the more detailed the answers can be! Help us to interpret the images, words and energies we are picking up to give you the clearest guidance in your situation.
The biggest questions on this are about when, how, or if, the person who is your soulmate is actually going to deal with their current legal mate. Often we hear questions about how you should handle the situation, or “is there anything that I can do to move it along?” These are specific areas where we can help you to see the bigger picture based on each individual situation, there is no blanket advice that fits all of you.
Another big question is, “IF they are MY Soul Mate then isn’t it a given they’ll choose ME?” The quick answer is: no, it doesn’t necessarily mean you will be together. Now, again, this is very different case by case, yet you need to be clear that being that spiritually connected is not a simple “pass” to clear away any or all obstructions to being with your current Soul to Soul connection. Sometimes we take on “lessons” or “challenges” as mortal human beings that our soul must accept for this one lifetime. If you could rise up to your higher self, you might be able to see what we cannot see from “down here.” Is it meant to be in this lifetime?
Now for some of you, this current “marriage” is NOT an obstacle, it is merely the chapter before your chapter together. In this case, you need to see that there are spiritual lessons that come from that union. Does that mean that it will end soon, or easily? Again, no, usually lessons are not taken with open arms… human beings resist change, we fight losing our attachments, we feel ownership and control towards each other. How easily they “let go” depends on the spiritual and mental well being of the two involved.
So to sum up the advice I give here, aim for a good outcome, yet accept and support the future to unfold as it is meant to in this lifetime for you and this particular love. Either you will find joy together after the current lessons, or you are meant to learn and let go and then move on to another love to find that joy and fulfillment. Blessings on your journey.
7 thoughts on “When Your Soulmate is Married to Someone Else”
First of all, I am so blessed to have read this article and I would greatly appreciate if anyone replies. I’ll try to make my story short as possible. I am married, but all these years I’ve been telling my husband that I feel like someone out there has been searching for me and I feel like I’ve been waiting for this someone. Not to mention, I was born with a gift. I have a good mental telepathy. Anyway, few weeks ago I met this man at a party. He has a gift like mine. We started connecting, we are in tune! Telepathically speaking we definitely connect! Each day goes by our connection gets deeper and deeper. We don’t talk about physical attraction here, we both feel our souls know each other. We can’t stop thinking about each other. We believe that we were once one soul. He is also married like me and we are both scared. We never been intimate but we can’t wait to see each other again! But I’m afraid we ended up being intimate. I try not to go deeper. I just told him that at least I found him at last! All these years I’ve been waiting and now he’s here in my life. We decided to be best of friends 🙂 but we have this desire to hold each other’s hands. We both don’t know what to do as of this moment. I tried to make him laugh and not to serious about it. If he only knew, I am hurting inside not to hug him at least.
This is an interesting article….I am glad to have read this, as I can related to it…I have meet this man….It was like love at first sight when we first meet four years ago…is an instant attraction….every time we see each other… our eyes would meet and he strike my heart….I felt this strong deep connection to this man….I know that he felted too and I am sure of it…..every time he call out my name his voice goes thru my body and bone….is like I heard and recognized his voice before…..I can NOT be near to him as I felt such strong chemistry between two of us….and because of our present situation we both have families of our own and with kids….our deep love for each other and strong bond that we have and will NEVER be able to persue or grow, as I have my strong religion believed….I wrote a lot of love poems to released my pain in my heart….some I have shared with him….it hurt too much NOT able to be close to him….knowing he belong to some one else and I belong to some one else …. my heart will always be with him to this life or to next life….I rather be me who suffer than some one else suffer….how can I hurt any soul…may be in this life we’re Not meant for each other …but to help other souls…this life we are meant to be just FRIENDS.
I believed this man is my soul mate because I meditates a lot due to my religion practice …it lead to something amazing…something out of this world….no one can never explain this KARMA….I am sure he is my soul mate and we been reincarnate few past life… 2 to be exact because I have had dreams….I believed our first past life together we were Brother and Sister….the Second we are husband and wife …but some thing terribly happened to me in my past life ….May be in this life time….we are meant for just friends….I currently have black-out every time I get near him….there has been an incident where I fail and landed on his arm where my hand grab his arm due to my broken shoe…I have total black-out and don’t remember a thing…..woke up my hand touching his arm….I apologized and went off my Mary way….we both never talked about it after…..I decided to keep our distance from him, as it is too painful for me to be near him….my community work has ended where we will see each other less…that was how we both meet 4 year ago thru our community work….as I said ” I rather be me being the one who get hurt than some one else”….I can NOT hurt any soul…..so afraid our spousal will find out – we never did have our intimatecy & it is probably a good thing for both os us….I strongly believed if we are the two love souls supposedly to be together and forever…I pray that “God makes every thing so beautiful and that day will be joyful” for this life or next life….my heart will always be with him forever…
“R” and I met 20 years ago at a spiritual retreat put on by the US Navy. I attended the retreat because I was having issues with my husband at the time. “R” was at this same retreat because he was grieving over the loss of his wife and unborn child who were killed in a car accident. My heart broke for this young man (at the time) for his tragic loss. We became so close to one another during that time and we felt a deep connection to one another. My husband at the time found out about our “affair” and went to “R’s” chain of command in the Navy to file a complaint. Adultery is against military standards and is a punishable crime so “R” was sentenced to 90 days aboard ship and a few weeks later I decided to reconcile with my husband. “R” and I lost contact. Fast forward 20 years. I have been single for years and decided to try to find “R” on Facebook. I found him and we got in contact. We were still just as ‘in-tune” with one another as we had been all of those years ago. But now he was married with children of his own. He admitted to me that he was still very much in love with me, that he considered me his soulmate, his missing puzzle piece and we once again began a relationship – long distance, mainly over FB and phone. We have seen each other a couple of times in this passed year and have also been intimate. It is torture for me because he is unhappy in his current marriage, they live separate lives, but can not leave due to the children. I hate the dishonesty that is caused by our relationship and how much my heart aches in being the “other woman”. I have tried repeatedly to end this but one of us always seems to get weak and contact the other. This is one of those life situations that you have to just let go of and let life take it from here. It is so very difficult to let your soulmate go. My choices are to hold on and suffer, or let go and suffer. But I know that the latter will cause less pain in the long run. Life is difficult.
This is an interesting article….I am glad to have read this, as I can related to it…I have meet this man….It was like love at first sight when we first meet four years ago…is an instant attraction….every time we see each other… our eyes would meet and he strike my heart….I felt this strong deep connection to this man….I know that he felted too and I am sure of it…..every time he call out my name his voice goes thru my body and bone….is like I heard and recognized his voice before…..I can NOT be near to him as I felt such strong chemistry between two of us….and because of our present situation…we both have family of our own and with kids….our deep love for each other and strong bond that we have and currently will NEVER be able to persue or grow, as I have my strong religion believed….I wrote a lot of love poems to released my pain in my heart….some I have shared with him….it hurt too much NOT able to be close to him….knowing he belong to some one else and I belong to some one else ….but my heart will always be with him….I rather be me who suffer than some one else suffer….how can I hurt any soul…may be in this life we’re Not meant for each other …but to help other souls.
I believed this man is my soulmate because I meditates a lot due to my religion practice …it lead to something amazing…something out of this world….no one can never explain this KARMA….I am sure he is my soulmate and we been reincarnate few past life… 2 to be exact because I have had dreams….I believed our first past life together we are Brother and Sister….the Second we are husband and wife got married….but some thing terribly happened to me in my past life before this ….I currently have black-out every time I get near him….there has been an incident where I fail and landed on him arn where my hand grab his arm due to my shoe problem…and this happened 2 years ago….I have total black-out and don’t remember a thing…..woked up my hand touching his arm….I apologized and went off my mary way….we both never talked about it after…..I decided to keep our distance from him, as it is too painful for me to be near him….my community work has ended where we will see each other less…that was how we both meet 4 year ago….as I said ” I rather be me being the one who get hurt than some one else”….I can NOT hurt any soul…..so afraid his wife will find out….I strongly believed if we are the two love souls supposely to be together and forever…I pray that “God make every thing so beautiful and that day will be joyful” for this life or next life….my heart will always be with him forever…
Thank you Lonnie! Dear sister of the moon Gina Rose, thank you for your blessing, bright blessings back to you dear heart! )0(
and to our sweet indigodance, to go beyond this one mundane lifetime and be grateful for the karmic connection that is there is a reward for those who life separates. You may want to explore past lifetimes you have shared with him to further understand what karma from those lives keep you separate, or look to see if there is another opportunity for soul mate connection on the horizon. Hold on to happy my dear!
Blessings,
Yemaya 5143
It was quite funny that this appeared today. Having issues with someone I care about deeply, but who is finding his interests elswhere…. I do find myself wondering why such a strong connection with him (and he me) that he is going to others to find what I would willing give him. OK – there is a rather large bit of distance between us, but this could be over come.
Despondant this morning on thinking about my friend and his latest interest, I so wish I could be his wife – but then the most strangest thought popped into my head – “I already am” in a cosmic way…. then a great deal of relief swept over me that we were already connected in the way I saw us. Like the lessons we have to go out and learn, I knew he would come back to me, maybe not in this life time – but we really are “one”.
Very good article Yemaya,
I agree 100% !!!! Well done.
Blessed Be )O(
Gina Rose ext.9500
Sometimes the Karmic circle will complete in this incarnation…..but sometimes it won’t and it will carry on over into the next incarnation.