The Path to Wholeness
I have an interesting story to share with you about how I found love.
When I was in my early forties, I realized just how empty my life felt and how deep my desire for love was. I was splitting up with what seemed to be my umpteenth boyfriend, already divorced twice and still longing for love. I thought my prayers were answered when I ran into a friend that I hadn’t seen in months and as we chatted I felt an unusual rush in my chest as though an elevator just lifted me up. This feeling seemed unique and had a moment of bliss attached to it and I asked my friend if he was experiencing the same thing, which he was. Yes, we were both into spiritual, new age subjects and just assumed it was one of those spiritual, new age things.
The next morning I woke up not with the bliss I had the night before but with a painful sense of longing for love. I wanted my friend to connect with me, but he couldn’t because he was married. Now remember I wasn’t planning to have these feelings nor did I have a hidden agenda of getting with a married man, friend or not. My pain increased and became a feeling that I could not reason away with my mind or overcome with any form of escape. All I could do was face myself and the emotional pain within, which was to become the foundation of the work I now do with clients.
The pain within is not an easy feeling to experience, but as I began this inner journey to heal I realized that the inner work of what I was doing was truly the work of self transformation. I realized that as my desire for love was reaching a feverish pitch, my defenses, the tough side of me, which thought she could live without love, was falling away. Vulnerability was taking over and I was crying like a baby from just wanting love.
I realized that my friend was a soulmate, a catalyst for me to face this hurt that had ruled my life and caused me to wander from relationship to relationship which were always with a type of man that was cold and emotionally unavailable, much like my mother was.
So for two months I was an emotional wreck, until one day the pain had reached the core and instead of torture I suddenly experienced a spiritual shift. I felt that I wasn’t separated from love and that God not only loved me but I was connected to God and the world. My inner self was elated and the pain was gone and I was freed from longing that my friend would leave his wife for me. The next day, on a blind date, I met my husband.
So when my pain healed; love immediately followed.
We have been together over fifteen years now. As soon as I changed my core inside, my outside reality shifted and brought me the love that was right for me. Many people that I work with have the same challenges that I experienced. They live a repeating cycle of going for the same type of person, one who is unavailable emotionally. Many women get stuck in over giving to their man, while he in turn takes and takes and becomes quite spoiled and selfish.
My soul mate friend eventually left his wife for another woman. We are still friends. I realize that his job as a soul mate was to trigger my deep wounds of abandonment that I experienced as a child. Some soul mates are here just to trigger soul growth. I had a dream after I met my husband that let me know that he was a soul mate also but it was our destiny to be together. Yes we do have more than one soul mate.
My goal is to teach you how to change your inner relationship with yourself by working through those subconscious thought patterns that keep you stuck.
If you’re finding yourself stuck in a repeating pattern, consider a session with Kim ext. 5512.
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Well this is a real eye opener ….I just had an awesome argument w/ my husband again. We have been talking and threatening about a divorce for over a year now , but change is difficult I know, even when you both know it is for the best. The only problem I am using as an excuse is my health problems lung cancer remission right now and I have seizures and I am afraid no one else will be there for me. I know I should leave, he is a verbal abuser, sex addict, but can be good to be when I need him, but also very hurtful and make me feel very guilty for everything also… I have spoken with you before Kim and I think I will again. Call you soon……thanks again
After speaking with Kim, and reading her story, it finally clicked that my last experience was to get me to where I am today and be ready for the wonderfull man I met and am deeply in love with ….Thank you so much for opening my eyes and letting me be able to move forward and accept my feelings are real for this man…
Hi Kim:
I read your blog and took your advice. I have been on my knees asking my guides and angels and God to help me heal and make me into what I know I am meant to be. I finally had a great breakthrough where I have fallen backwards in the sandbox. Please keep praying for me to have strength as I continue heal from my broken heart. The funny thing is, I am the one who asked for space and my heart is broken. I guess it hurts both people regardless of who ends it first.
This is awesome, Kim. Great article.
THANKS, Miss Krystal
Kim great article!
Many Blessings,
Abigail~
@kimbsech: I can understand your pain. I was in a 10 yr relationship w/the one man i loved so dearly. After being seperated for almost 3 yrs, he met another woman and fell head over heels for her. Moved in and told me to nvr contact him again. As much as it hurt to hear him say that (and believe me I did try to contact him to no avail) I had to move on w/my life. No, I’m not at the point where I feel like I don’t want to get out of bed or feel like dying wld be a btr feeling, but I had to make the choice to move on. Little by little everday I try to let go. And though it’s not easy, you should somehow try to find your strength to move forward. It’s 3 yrs later and I’m still not over him. Yes he consumes my mind all day everyday and what he’s doing w/her but I have forgiven him for what He did put me through when we were together and I refuse to hold myself stagnant. Please find your power within and take it back. It will take some time (especially after 15 years of dating) but you will over come. This too shall pass!!!
Hi Kim,
Thank you for such a candid and honest article. It is true we have different soul mates; each one gives us an opportunity to overcome something in our lives.
As we overcome these issues we grow closer to finding the RIGHT soul mate who, through destiny, we are made ready for. Thank you again for sharing this.
Love & Light!
~Chloe (ext. 9421)
me and my ex (jacob) broke up in december after being together for 15 years. all these moths since then i have felt lost and so alone ,i couodnt understand any of it and i hurt so bad i wanted to die i didnt even wanna get up in the morning but today i had a talk with the girl he left me for and he treated her just like he treated me said the same things c=and gave same excuses. i started to wonder if he had been playing me and lying to me all these years. i was told that not even a month after we broke up he asked new girl to marry did the 15 years that we were together not even mean anything to him ?/ how not even being a month was he able to just jump right into another relationship then 3 months move in with her and say she was the best for him and he wanted to marry her 15 years and he still didnt marry me wtf!!! i ned some help i need some advice i need to know is it me am i the problem