Hayden writes:
How do we practice the art of detachment? How do we let go? What should we tell our mind to do? I want to release a bad relationship and I’m finding it difficult.
Dear Hayden,
Before this freeing art can be practiced, there must be a letting go. Letting go does not mean you forget the person, place, or situation. Instead, it requires you to take an honest look at what you are holding on to.
We are usually surprised to realize that the only things we are holding on to are pain and disappointment … Letting go is simply releasing whatever it may be that is not healthy for you. Try to remember the last time you thought about the situation without feelings of loss. Is holding this memory in the present worth all the sadness it causes you?
As hard as this is to hear … Sometimes we get caught up in staying attached to negative situations because we are afraid if we don’t, nothing will be there to replace it. We feel this was our one chance for happiness, and it is hard to believe that things did not work out. We are afraid that if we let go, we will be alone forever. Think about it — we are already alone! Our mind loves nothing more than to take us off on tangents of non-acceptance — it keeps us locked in the cycle of endless heartache. Sometimes we hold on to the past because we feel if the same thing happens again, we will not be able to bear it. We unconsciously decide that it is easier to hold the pain we already know than to risk having to go through it again.
Acceptance is one of the hardest things to do for some reason, but it is also the most freeing! As we grow and learn to let go more freely, we find it easier to live the spiritual art of detachment, but at first we may flip back and forth. It may be necessary to self-check to see where we are coming from — head or heart. The true art of detachment is loving and giving with no expectations of receiving anything in return. It is accepting that the one you love may be happier with someone else.
As soon as we accept what has happened and release our hold on our pain, the magic of letting go shows itself as it frees up energy. One of two things can happen now — either the situation may be mysteriously worked out, or something even better may appear in front of us.
In total detachment, love, and light,
Claire ext. 5242
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8 thoughts on “Practice the Art of Detachment”
I thank you. As I was reading your article,I could feel the tension leaving my body. My headache is gone.
I have learned to accept what happened. And, now I was just able to let it go of my pain.
My smile is back!
Many thanks, this article spoke to me, my inner voice also kicked in. Its time, I’m ready, as I write my whole body energized.
Claire,
Thank you for a great article on letting go-it does seem to be a huge issue for clients and, I suspect, for some of us as well.
I particularly agree with your points that once we look at what we are holding on to we realize there is nothing there-nothing at all. Further, the point you made that we “can’t get over that person/situation/job” because we fear that if we let go of that old situation nothing will come in to replace it. Absolutely-100% correct. “I don’t know why, but I just can’t get over him/her”. Fear is ruling the situation-fear there won’t be anything else.
Your article is freeing-great job and thanks again.
Paychic Maryanne
Extension 9146
Hi Claire,
This was an excellent article !!!!!!… with much psychology attached to it…….makes sense though.
Much of what I do with the people the Psychiatrists, Psychologists, and Therapists send to me is to help them to let go of the past hurts and pain, to empower them so that they can then create a better future for themselves.
This article is especially true, also but not limited to, in the cases of victims of domestic violence, (not only physical,BUT mental and emotional abuse), that I work with.
Blessed Be )O(
Gina Rose ext.9500
Enjoyed the article, Claire…No matter what the issue is, when something is eating at us, being able to detach is a great art….It does help.
I think for some of us, it takes time to learn how to do it…
Thanks.
Miss Krystal
I found that to be the best explantion of letting go that I have come across thank you
Most of your posts are truly helpful, I’m glad I signed up with you guys… Thanks heaps!
Thank you for posting that article. It was very reassuring to me to know Im heading in the right path in that area in my life.