The Hardest Lesson to Learn

Every person has their own path.

Every person has their own right to choose their path, even if it is a path that those who love them wouldn’t choose. Even if their chosen path is self-destructive, brings them nothing but pain, and keeps them isolated or firmly stuck in their lower self, it is, their path nevertheless, and their choice.

When we try to interfere with another’s path by offering help that is not wanted, by advising, trying to rescue, continually extending ourselves or being judgmental, we will never have an impact. All we will do is turn resentful, as they will turn resentful towards us. We won’t be effective, and we won’t ever be able to spread our light. We will be told that we are judgmental, harsh, controlling or unreasonable, and the mission we set out to do, no matter how noble the intent, will fail.

We spread our light by loving unconditionally. Sometimes this means we have to love silently and release. We do not hold on, we let go of all attachment towards another’s behavior. We also let go of any attachment we have to ourselves. We know our path, but we are not attached to it.

We state our boundaries. Loving unconditionally does not mean we turn into doormats. We reserve the right to decline, to say “no, thank you,” then smile and walk away. We reserve the right to part ways or not invite them into our lives, but we do so with kindness and compassion. We understand that others are not like us, and that that’s OK.

We do not hold on to another’s pain. We are empaths, but we practice the silent loving and releasing. We do not hold resentment, negativity, disappointment, anger, sadness and despair, because we do not observe from judgment. We do not walk into another’s life, room or situation, quickly evaluating what is wrong and then focusing on that. We do not seek that which is wrong, or that does not serve our highest purpose. We do not stick our noses into another’s business unless it’s a matter of life and death.

We understand that by stating our disappointment, anger, sadness and grievances, we create more of the same, for the unconscious does not discriminate. So if I state “my friend betrayed me,” the unconscious only heard “betrayed” and will create more situations of betrayal. We do not feed our subconscious with self-destructive messages.

We shine a light – a beacon, if you will – that shines so bright that only those with an equally bright light are attracted. We no longer attract those who walk in the shadows, because we no longer grant permission or create a pathway for them to enter our lives. We teach from joy, instead of teaching from being a martyr, because we no longer have an attachment to teaching. We teach by being us, and by the example of our own lives and paths. And we start noticing how everything around us becomes more peaceful, more quiet, and less painful. We watch the drama, the noise and the entire struggle subside, and we find ourselves leading extraordinary lives, being human and yet also being divine.