“People believe what they want to believe, Carmen. And this, alone, explains what they have or don’t have.”
– A Note From the Universe
I think the whole confusion starts with the fact that people tend to believe so many things. And what they believe is usually based on surroundings, teachings, social standards and upbringing. Neither one of these beliefs may actually be based in reality, but that doesn’t make them less real for those who are caught up in them.
Sometimes, people have gotten angry and defensive when I tell them that the power to manifest what they want lies solely within them. They’d insist I was withholding the steps on how to do it. I would get to hear, “yeah, I get that it is up to me, but how do I do it? Why can’t you tell me the secret to happiness?” Nope, this is not made up. I literally got almost these exact words thrown at me on more than one occasion and each time I would repeat myself “it is all up to you.”
In theory this sounds very easy, and I think that’s why people get so frustrated when it’s pointed out to them. There’s comfort in not being able to control one’s destiny, which also offers endless excuses to not be able to control one’s own impulses, responses, words, whims, emotions and thoughts. Apparently, we are all just pinballs, knocked around by life and some unseen force no one quite understands and definitely can’t control or exercise power over.
So the question is, how does one change one’s thoughts? It starts with the determination to do so! One really has to want to change, which usually means they’d have to be at the point where they’re willing to do pretty much anything to make it happen. They must have hit that proverbial “rock bottom” and be tired of their own inauthenticities, stories and their own BS. For those who are familiar with the Tarot, they would have to experience the full energy force of the Tower.
Who we think we are, how we view ourselves, and what we believe we can/cannot do not only manifests in our lives but also is that which others see about us. This is why confidence is so important, and this is why those with low self-esteem work almost as a repellant towards happy and successful people. This is why not only the most beautiful or even most talented person will get the job, deal or awesome partner but the one who believes in themselves the most. Some may whine and say that this isn’t fair. Alas, I never said that living one’s dream is easy. And as I have said a million times before, most things worth getting in life are not easily attained and often consist of an uphill battle; at least for a while.
Success and happiness don’t knock on our door while we sit on our butt, whining about the stuff we don’t have and all the things that went wrong in our past. Our weight won’t magically shrink while we sit on the couch and eat another burger with fries. We won’t get that six-figure salary, while doing nothing to improve our knowledge and delivering the bare minimum, expecting a miracle or hand-out.
It’s human to get beaten down, disappointed, depressed, discouraged, sad and angry or maybe act unkind at times. But what defines a master of his/her own destiny is the fact that this is not their main mode and they don’t remain that way; alas, they are not stuck but free to create what they truly want to manifest. They don’t keep making excuses for why they can’t do what they need to do, they don’t complain about how hard it is and how bad they have it; they simply do. And when they suffer or hit a slump, they do so with grace, kindness and dignity. You can always tell true character by how a person handles pain.
I aspire to be that person. I want to be that person so much that I have undergone not only severe changes in the past years but, most importantly, have worked my butt off. I have been privileged enough to have had (and still do have) friends, managers, co-workers, or other inspirational people in my life that encourage me to live the life I wish to create.
I’m still working on it and I still get it wrong at times; after all, it’s so easy to fall back into my old and learned behavioral patterns. So, “being happy” truly is an everyday choice and sometimes, still an uphill battle.
I guess one could say that true happiness and success is achieved when one finds peace and love for oneself without being a doormat or without taking abuse. In the end, it all boils down to balance within you. Balance is the key to it all.
13 thoughts on “The Law of Abundance is Not a Secret”
Carmen,
Truer words were never spoken. The past two years have been a time of growth for me. I was diagnosed with recurrent breast cancer at 35 years old. I chose to undergo a double mastectomy with immediate reconstruction. During that time, I focused on bible passages regarding healing. I spoke about my total healing. I created vision boards of beautiful, active, healthy women in their 70s, 80s, and 90s. I listened to guided imagery and meditations regarding maintaining perfect health. Needless to say, my health is perfect. I am completing my first 5k on 12/10/11 (my son’s 17th birthday). I am doing well in a masters of social work program. Now that the rest of my life is falling into place, I have turned my attention to attracting the perfect mate for me into my life. In doing so, I realized that I am the only one holding myself back from attracting him. Although I failed to recognize it, I was still in love with my ex and subconsciously wanted him back. Now I realize just how toxic we were together, and I released him to his new life. Now I am free to attract my perfect partner into my life. I will let you know of my progress.
I actually feel honored to have inspired a whole bunch of courageous people. Bright blessings to all of you.
its so hard 2 stay positive on ur lifes journey,when theres so many negative people that wants 2 destory u.How can u keep a positive attitude? I try 2 stay ground & center.Focus on my thoughts & goal,2 change the things in my life for the better with magic!!!!!
Good article, it is easier to wallow in ones misery then to take a stand and do something, my Jewish mom taught me to worry. There is no doubt that life is tough and all people will suffer at some point but we do become who we want to be and develop some good and bad habits along the way.
We can all change and grow as mentioned, first be aware and then proceed to make positive changes. I like to write down what I want to achieve, to put it out into the world.
I also believe it is important to be thankful for what we do have and connect with others in a supportive way.
I wish all here peace, love and abundance.
I see the point of this article. I have been guilty of sitting back waiting for my happiness to find me and not doing anything about it. I have blamed it on others in my life and especially on my parents and how I was raised. I am currently working through this and will continue to fight for my happiness.
Very good article
Carmen: Thank you so much for this blog. As a matter of fact, I am working my way through this very issue now for the last 10 months, and it is working.
Came through a divorce which was only final just 2 weeks ago and find myself NOT being the blubbering idiot I was during my first divorce.
Like you said in your article, it takes time but it works.
Thank you again.
Hi Carmen,
thank you for this article. It has been so inspiring to me as I am a very positive person, always have been since a child, but have been suroounded with some pretty negative people in my lifes journey. I have fought to stay positive despite the negativity and always wondered why I have never given up on myself. Now I realise that it is because I have tremendous inner strength and my spirit is so strong.
I am currently in a transitional period and on the doorstep to freedom. It has been a hard journey but not once did I give up even though the thought sometimes did cross my mind. Especially when the negative people around me told me to give up and tried to put fear in me. I have a motto which I beleive in and always try to motivate others with. ” Attitude is everything” It will make you or break you. So to those who read this, have a good attitude at all times and never leave any room for negativity. Thanks!
Thank you so much for the inspiring message !! I truly needed to read this today to help give me the strength to keep going through these challanges in life 🙂
Awesome on right on point. Great article keep them coming. We truly are what we think, feel and beleive. Once I got a hold of this truth, my entire life changed for the better I believed it to be. My thoughts, my journey, my happiness, my health, my wealth, my joy. I am all that, I am. Peace & Love.
RUBA BY NAME MATHER NAME AMAL
29/2/1968
I WANT TO KNOW , WHEN I CNA GET MARRIED
Hi Carmen,
yet another masterpiece !!!!
” And as I have said a million times before, most things worth getting in life are not easily attained and often consist of an uphill battle; at least for a while ”
The above quote from your article is so true….
…anything worthwhile is worth working towards….life is ALL about challenges and striving to reach our goals, and in the interim, becoming a better , stronger person thru that process.
Absolutely right on the button! Very nicely said!