Praba in Singapore writes:
My boyfriend and I have known each other for 4 years, but we only met in person this year. Since both of us are from different countries, it’s not easy to know what it will be like, being together. I’m from a traditional family, so I can only live with him once we get married. I love him very much, but there is one worry: I always wonder if we are good enough for each other emotionally and physically. He sees sex as an important factor in a relationship, and he expects certain things from me. I don’t know if I can do those things. Also, he is active — whereas I’m not. I really want to know what our future looks like; both of us are Scorpios.
Dear Praba,
The future can certainly be scary, but please do your best to try and relax! It’s going to be okay.
Because of the distance between your boyfriend and you, your relationship has evolved a bit outside of traditional courting. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, though. It is because of the distance that the communication plane shines so strongly between the two of you. This is essentially the foundation of your relationship — and, ultimately, the basis for your marriage.
Adjusting to married life is going to take some getting used to, for each of you. Even though your boyfriend is a bit more worldly and experienced than you are, he is not so experienced in all things that he glides effortlessly into the role of being a husband. Just as you are concerned about adjusting to the role of being a good wife, he also has his insecurities and concerns. Learning to live with someone is always an ongoing process, but you two will make this transition with relative ease. For each of you, it will be primarily fun and exciting — getting to know each other more deeply, and finally being able to spend time together.
Sex can be scary, especially when you don’t know exactly what to expect. Don’t worry, your innocence in this arena isn’t a turn-off for him — it’s a turn-on. As your husband, he will take care to introduce you to realm of physical love and passion with great understanding and patience. He will not force you to do anything that you aren’t willing to do, and in time you will find yourself enjoying certain physical acts that you never thought you would. As lovers, the two of you are very compatible.
The future for you and your boyfriend looks very bright, with a happy marriage and a lovely family. Both of you are heading toward a very beautiful and exciting phase of life. There is a lot of love in your future, and living with him as his wife will bring you great joy and prosperity.
