Dear Red
I seem to have a problem being faithful to my husband. I really love him, but I enjoy being in a relationship with two others as well. Joe, my husband of 27 years, and I are very compatible! Mike and I have been “having an adventure” for three years! Something keeps pulling us together. And Rob, reminds me of my husband, but there’s something exciting about him! Ours is not a constant relationship, like the others, but we have a connection. So–what’s wrong with me?
Should I end my marriage? I can’t seem to stay faithful lately. Is it a planetary thing, or am I emotionally ill? The odd thing is I am very happy! I don’t even feel guilty! What’s going on?
Diana
Dear Diana,
There are some people in this world who really do have issues with monogamy. Even though vows are spoken and promises made, some spirits just have to feel “free”.
Your marriage, though it does need some work, appears as if it is going to remain intact. Of course, you can always take steps to change that and be free…if that is what you truly want.
I wish this were as simple as a planetary thing. But, it’s not. It’s you, and your choices. Of course you’re happy! You’ve got it all! You have the stability and history with your hubby, and you get the ego boost, excitement, and outlet of other men.
The main reason that you are having such a tough time being faithful, is you really don’t want to be faithful. There’s not a lot of joy in it for you. Society may tell you that you are suffering from some emotional illness or imbalance of some kind; but you come through pretty clear to me. Free-spirited and more than a bit selfish, but clear.
Here’s the bottom line: You’re a big girl, doing exactly what you want to do. While your actions may not cast you in the best moral and ethical light, you are being true to yourself. But, you are the only person you are being true to.
What you do is entirely up to you.
Brightest Blessings,
Red
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