Does a Divorce Mean it’s Over?
Anita from Winston Salem asks:
I have been divorced since 2003 and I am still mourning my divorce. My ex will not even speak to me. He acts like it was all my fault. He cheated on me and kept all the money to himself, yet we did have a good relationship (or so I thought). I saw him at his mom’s funeral. He kissed me on the forehead and looked at me like he still loved me. I believe he does, but he just won’t talk to me. I have tried dating others, but I have had no luck. I’m just not interested. It’s like I am holding a torch, hoping he will call or want me back. I am 61 and he is 58. I have moved back to NC and he is still in GA.
Psychic Red ext. 9226 Responds:
Dear Anita,
You have quite a history with your ex husband. That is something that is hard to forget; harder still to just walk away from. But, you need to try. The two of you built and shared a life, but it is no longer that time or place. Your ex has moved on. I’m not saying he doesn’t still care for you, because he does. He always will. Sadly, it’s not the same kind or depth of love that you still hold for him. I’m sorry to say this, but I don’t see him coming back to you.
I know that this isn’t the news you were hoping to hear. I can only hope that hearing it will help to free you so that you can move forward and find love again. Letting go is hard, but it can also be liberating. It’s time you put down the torch and get back to living your life fully again.
There is a magnetic quality about you that certainly catches the attention of available, and some not-so-available men. Look at dating from the perspective of companionship and fun, instead of a mission to find love. It’s going to take a special man to hold your attention, and there has to be a higher level of chemistry and true connection for you to consider a deeper involvement, but it is going to happen. I see you getting married again, in what looks like 2016. You don’t have to believe me now, but I will warn you to never say, “never!”
Your marriage may be over, but your life isn’t. Let go of the past and look toward the future with hope, but not expectation, and you just might find that you enjoy being free.
I hope this helps you.
Brightest Blessings,
Red
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5 thoughts on “Red Responds: Walk Away From Your Ex”
Wow. This is me and all true..I was married for 24 years and I just went through a divorce six months ago. I deleted everything, threw everything that I would not have memories, photos of us. The way I see it, we had a happy marriage and one day he came home and wanted a divorce, because he was seeing someone. He told me to move on. The day he left, I didnt call, text, or try to contact him. He did until after our final divorce, we have no contact. I’m trying to get over him. I meet someone and it only last for a couple of months. Now,I met someone and I’m not sure. We only dated once and he wants to date again, but i’m scared. I don’t know if he is the right person for me.
I cant get over my x boyfriend, we were so goid together, but he would not change for me, like he made me, but i did it for love, we been fighting and now he is gone somewhere, and he doesnt want to tell me.im aries and hes a sags. Sould i stay away, we’ve hurt each other alot, but he always says he loves, im very confussed, and cant really move on. No one will really ask me out because of him
He says he doesn’t want to get together with me ever again but doesn’t want a divorce, its been two year we have been seperated….
He says he doesn’t want to get together with me ever again but gets doesnt want a divorse! Where do I go from here?
I feel her hurt and pain. I too am divorced since 1997, now with 3 grown children. He is on his 3rd wife I was his first high school sweet heart. Now Im in a relationship for 13 years 3 more children 12,12,10. He doesnt want to get married again (2cd). We are going through a lot and dont want to be together anymore. Now its all about the kids. I keep thinking about how good my life use to be before my divorce. It is really hard to let go, even if he asked me to take him back I would’nt the trust is gone.