Keeping Up Appearances
Looking forward to the next family holiday? Perhaps yours is similar to the following scenario.
Sticking to Family Traditions
You know that twelve-hour get-together where you eat stuff you wouldn’t normally choose, shout above ear-splitting music you’re really not into, and say quite a few things you really don’t mean.
Maybe, it’s at Aunt Molly’s. She’s really a dear, but
you’re allergic to her pets and the perfumed hand soap she puts out for guests
in the washroom.
Did you remember the cortisone? You forgot to bring
your own soap in that plastic bag in your pocket because you were busy making
the candied yams from scratch that take four hours to fix. The ones you make
every year. The ones that drip all over your clothes as you wrestle them out of
the car.
Everyone seems to be enjoying
themselves, but what is happening to you? About three hours into the celebration, you find yourself
getting overly sensitive to remarks being made. The food coloring in the cupcakes
is giving you a migraine. The kitchen clean-up you were planning on helping
with is looking more grueling.
Someone coos about the recent accomplishments of your
sister.
“What have you been up to lately?” They shoot you a blank
and confused look when you attempt to explain your current manner of work and
avenue of income.
That sense of being trapped
is building inside you.
Just as Uncle Joe brings out his new gun collection to
impress you with, you cast about for any excuse to bolt out the door. But, you
have to go back in because your favorite salad bowl is still on the potluck
table and your wallet is under the coats in the bedroom.
The Forgotten Secret
All people, and all
families, need support sometimes. Beyond the messy kitchen, the obnoxious soap, and the
divergent political views, what is really going on in your mind and emotions
when you reflect on your family?
What you’re really worried
sick about is your six-year-old, who’s having trouble in school. Everyone else’s kids seem to be
excelling. Or, so you’re being told. Your partner is so concerned about the
problem that he stayed home with your child this year instead of going to the
family party. You feel you are sticking out like a sore thumb amidst all the
smiling couples, and you’re wondering if things could really get any worse.
Welcome to family dynamics.
Tarot to the Rescue
Excuse yourself as gracefully as possible and explain that there’s an important call you need to make in your car. Pull out your Tarot cards and consider the following:
Family Support Tarot Spread
This is an eight-card Tarot spread, laid out in three lines, top to bottom. Line one: Cards one, two, and three; line two: Cards four and five; line three: Cards six, seven, and eight.
Card One- Current Family
Dynamics
Seven of Swords
Currently, a lot of facts and truths are being withheld by my partner and me where it concerns the family as a whole. We feel we need to face this alone. This avoids the problem; it doesn’t solve it.
Card Two- The Energy I Bring to This
Empress (reversed)
I am suffering a lot of feelings and feel that I have
to put on a bright and happy face in front of my extended family. I do not
realize that I can be helped by trusting my family community with the truth
about my child. I do not see that I could accept their love and help with it.
Card Three- The Energy My Partner
Brings
King of Cups
My partner is facing the situation more honestly than
I currently am. He is being honest about what he needs to do on this holiday
and is being honest about what would be most beneficial for our child at this point.
Card Four- The Energy Our Child
Brings
The High Priestess
Our child brings loving energy and just wants to be accepted for who they are. She sees that Mom and Dad are worried and disappointed, and are fearful of what to do. They feel their cousins pulling back from them and treating them as “different.” They are sad about that. They have deep emotional wisdom. They are an “old” soul and on some level knows that this is part of their family’s spiritual evolution.
Card Five- What Do I Most Need
to Know About Our Child?
The Fool
They are spontaneous, original, and daring! What I need to know about my child is that they are gifted in unique ways that may not fit others’ measuring tools.
I need to know how to recognize their strengths and talents that don’t necessarily fall into the cookie-cutter categories of school achievement. I need to talk to caring people in the community to get information about ways to support non-traditional learners. I need to accept the community’s love and concern and be willing and open to trying their ideas.
Card Six- What Will Happen
if There is No Intervention?
Five of Cups
If we don’t intervene for our child, they will develop low self-esteem, and tend to withdraw. They may act out in ways that won’t assist their growth and happiness.
Card Seven –What Action Needs
to be Taken for Our Child?
The Magician
We need to research and reach out to others in the larger community who are going through similar problems. We need to have our child lovingly assessed by a counselor, listen, and take the advice that might be positive for them.
We need to pay closer attention to their words and emotions, and what they like to do and explore. We need to more fully acknowledge them for the smart and creative things we see them do.
We need to reach out with more trust in the likelihood that some of the family will get “on board” to support our child’s learning and development.
Card Eight- What is the Best
Outcome for Our Child with the Right Support?
The Sun
Our gifted, unique child will feel seen, loved, and celebrated for who they are. They can continue along the path their higher self has planned for them in this lifetime and fulfill their destiny.
The Support is There
It can be hard to trust your family with your personal
struggles. However, humans are social creatures, meant to be a part of a
community, and help each other when needed. Let the Tarot
guide you to the support you need in difficult moments. The outpouring of love
you find may surprise you.
Tarot card readings give you a deeper connection to Spirit. This means you’ll get the unadulterated insights you need about your past, present, and future, but only if you read with a tarot card psychic.
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